The Top 10 Afrobeat Songs of 2014!

Merry Christmas Guys!

Al-right, I Know it's not actually Christmas, but it was less than 3 days ago so it still counts. I hope you've had a wonderful Christmas times, eating all the turkeys (or jollof rice if you're proper African). Those who know me know that I am the Queen of Afro-beat! I live and breathe it and if a club isn't playing it then there's no chance you'll find me there so I decided to share with you the top 10 songs in 2014 which BANGED! Hard!

1. DOROBUCCI- by the Mavins
When you're old fashioned mum who doesn't even know who Beyonce is or WIzkid starts singing a song, then you know that song has made it. Dorobucci swept the country hard even though no one, not even Don Jazzy knows what the hell 'Doro' means. Basically just put Doro in front of every word.

2. SHOKI- Lil Kesh
This song is actually just amazing! Nah this song is the real meaning of BANG!  You know how Ghanain azonto to every song well Nigerians now shoki to every song. The song is amazing and the dance is even better. I can't do it justice with words, check it out yourself. BTW; he's olamide's younger brother!

3. JOHNNY- Yemi Alade
This song was a banger as soon as it came out, like there was no question about it. From the video to the lyrics to Bovi's humorous interferences, the song is just a winner. Added to that, plenty of girls can relate as there are many Johnny going around these days. (Yes that was an indirect)

4. AYE- Davido
This was the love song of the year, girls were singing it, boys were singing it on the sly so they don't look gay, uncles in the club were singing it, their wives at home were singing it. The only thing wrong with the song is him saying that 'she no want designer, she no want ferrari' who is she cause all the girls i know deffo want designer.

5. ADONAI- Castro ft Sarkodie
Firstly, RIP Castro. Secondly this was one of the biggest song of this year, Literally every single black club, music station, phone, persons mouth was playing this song. It was afrobeat at it's best infused with some Christian elements (allegedly it's gospel though I'm not 100% sure) either way people were tripping for this song.

6. KHONA- Mafikizolo
Was sure I was going to spell their name wrong lol. This is more late 2013 but it fully banged in 2014 and really brought South Africa and other African countries into the mainstream afrobeat scene. 1
question though, what does Khona mean? Guess we have the same problem as 'Doro'

7. IJO SONA- Sona
This one makes me so sad because Sona is actually such a live afro-beat artist. He is UK based and the 4 songs he has released have been so on point and gotten me gassed till i found out he's been arrested. The song came out of nowhere and banged though! Make sure you check out his other songs.

8. THE BADDEST- Moelogo ft Giggs
This song is actually such a harddd song. From the first moment I heard it in a friend's car, I've been searching for it. The collab with Giggs was genius and the guys lyrical flow was on point. I hadn't heard of him before but I certainly have now.

9. GIRLIE O- Patoranking ft Tiwa Savage
AHH i know literally all the words to this song and so does half the girls that ahve heard it i suspect. it is such a beautiful song with some jamo undertones( that's patoranking for you) and Tiwa savage's voice just made it 10/10.

10. ALKAYIDA- Guru
This one is a funny one because people here the title and get it confused with an organisation with an identical sounding name but NO, don't be scurred, Alkayida is a recent Ghanain dance that has taken over every afro-beat club and black house party and even though hald the people can't do it, you'll see them flexing their hands and pretending they can when it comes on.

I can only put 10 down but trust me there has bee en so many good songs in 2014 that I have just loved. Mr OREO is my all time favourite, STORY FOR THE GODS just gets me, JASI is actually the funniest thing ever, BABY HELLO, ELELE, TINA, SHAKE BODY, to name a few.
Comment below some of your favourites.
The moral of the story is that Afrobeat bangs so keep listening to it.

Odabo. (Bye)

Short hair on a Round face!

Hey Guys!

So you know the new year is always here so I was exploring and thinking of new ways to have my hair. The thing is I have a pretty round face (at least I think so) with a very wide smile so I've always stuck to the conventional hair past my shoulders, thick full hair kinda thing but just this week, I was in between hair styles and my mama suggested I try a pixie cut, I was like are you kidding? (I didn't actually say that to my African mum) My face is too round, I'd have to pout permanently to look decent but I tried it anyway and was pleasantly surprised. I got so much compliments and I think it really suits me. I'm thinking of making it my permanent hairstyle.

I guess it just goes to show that even if you're not completely sure on something or doubting if it'll work, give it a go and you never know, you may be pleasantly surprised like I was.

 Me with normal hair

too scared to smile incase it doesn't bang!

Which do you prefer? Do you think it suits my face? Or am I just decieving myself?

Comment below and don't forget to subscribe ;)

Friends don't have to agree to be there for you!

So I have this Friend, she often comes to me with a problem, I often don't agree with the problem, but I always listen to it and try to reach a solution for her. The fact that I don't see the problem as a problem doesn't mean it's not a problem for her. So I would say my job as a friend is to listen to her and be there for her as long as she needs. Would you agree?

Many times you won't like the decision your friend makes, mostly boy related or they will tell you something that bothers them and in your mind you will be like, this isn't really a problem to be honest just get over it. But you can't forget that everyone is different and just because you wouldn't see that as a big deal if it was you doesn't mean they're not allowed to see it as a big deal. They're not you, things that may not hurt you can hurt then and it's not your call to decide what is important or not.

As a friend you should listen to them, say what you can to make them feel better and if you have nothing to say, a collection of hmms,grunts and I feel you girl should suffice. Under no circumstances must you say:

Just get over it already. It's not that deep.
Get over them.
Anyways....(Then change the subject) this one is particularly not alright

You get the gist. You don't have to agree or even understand where your friend is coming from. But you do have to be there for them. Otherwise what's the difference between you and a stranger?

Do you agree? Comment below and don't forget to subscribe

Why Men Lie!

Exactly one year ago, the first guy I met at university told me he didn't mean everything he had ever said to me and that he wanted to be with the girl he cheated on me with.

About an hour ago the most recent guy I met at university told me he never meant anything he ever said to me and that he had more feelings for the girl he cheated on with me.

Funnily enough, the content of their lies were quite similar, the usual bs about wanting to make me their wife, having found a respectable girl to take home, yardie yardie ya. A bunch of lies that when push came to shove, they were quick to denounce.

So my question is why did they feel the need to lie in the first place. What possesses them to think telling a lie will work out in the long run better than telling the truth. You know what I believe? You are never wrong for wanting what you want. These guys wanted to be players, they wanted to play the field, they didn't want to be tied down to one girl and if that is genuinely what they want, no one can judge them for it. What is wrong is not giving someone to choose to be a part of that.

If you want to have 3 girls on the go, by all means do that. If you want to have a friend with benefit, by all means do that. Just don't take away my choice to decide if I want to be a part of that or not by lying to me. Neither of these guys told me the truth, and what hurt the most in both situations is not that they didn't really want to be with me but that they lied to me, told me they saw a future with me. Watched me fall for them and let down my guard only to turn around and be like....I didn't mean what I said. The last guy was particularly beastly....He even told me there was no reason for lying to me, he just did it. If that's not the devil himself speaking I don't know what is.

In conclusion, I know the title suggests I have a reason for why men lie but the truth is I have no idea. The only sort of conclusion I can come to is that men don't lie. Boys do! It's only boys that try and manipulate the situation to get their way. Men don't have to lie because they generally know what they want and go after it. 

I would never judge you for wanting what you want. But when you rob me off the choice to decide if I want to be a part of it..then that's when I get mad.

Remember to guard your heart guys.

PS: This experience made me so much stronger though and I definitely learnt ALOT! So I guess it wasn't all negative.

The importance of knowing your self worth!

Hey Guys,

Recently, me and my friend was talking about what we learnt from this year and I mentioned that mine was growth and essentially self awareness/knowledge. In 2014, I came to understand the person that is me. I realised my strengths, my weaknesses, my good points, my bad points, the way I think and the person I am. But more importantly was that I gained a high level of  self worth. 

What do I mean by self worth?

In a nutshell it's who you are. What you do and don't deserve. What you should and shouldn't put up with. Knowing yourself worth means you don't let others take advantage of you, it means  you see yourself as someone who is worth a lot, someone who is valuable and who others need to make effort to get into their lives.

Realising my self worth has meant realising that:

1. I am beautiful- you're opinion of whether I am beautiful or not does not decide whether I am            beautiful or not. I decide that and I say that I am therefore I am.

2. The horrible and hurtful things that people have done to me is a reflection on who they are and not on me. I did not deserve the way they treated me and I need not feel bad nor blame myself for that.

3. If someone treats me like an option, they are not worthy of me and I will make the choice even easier for them by cutting myself off.

4. If someone has lost me, It's their loss and in the not too distant future, it will hit them that they truly focked up.

5. What others say about you is none of your business. How you react to it on the other hand, is. It can't affect you until you make ot decision to let it. So don't let it.

I could go on and on but I'm sure you get the message. Know who you are first, accept it, love it, then go about practising it. Don't let people treat you like you are garbage on their shoes or like you should be privileged to encounter them .I don't think so. 

See yourself as a King/Queen and then act like it. The queen doesn't feel honoured to talk to you so why should I feel honoured that you're talking to me. 

Remember to Guard your heart Guys.

How to make a Spicy Chicken Wrap with red pepper and tomato salsa

Hey Guys,

So I'm bringing a new recipe to my fellow adventurous cooks!
This one is one I stole from the madre, if you know her, you know her food be slaying. She made me one for lunch for my Law firm event and I fell in love so got back to Manchester and decided to make my own spin on it.

INGREDIENTS:

Tortilla Wraps (If you want it more healthy, get whole wheat ones, they taste just as great)
Chicken Fillet/ Breaded Hot and Spicy Chicken
One Red Pepper
1/2 Tomatoes
Half an Onion
Lettuce
Dollop of Mayonnaise
A tablespoon of oil
A teaspoon of tomato puree
Seasoning (All purpose, parsley, chilli powder, maggi)

RECIPE:
First, if you are using a breast fillet, season the chicken and put it in the oven. Personally I preferred the Iceland breaded hot and spicy chicken, it tasted great and brought the whole meal together but if you feel the need to know exactly what goes into your mouth then you can season a breast fillet as well, I would advise coating it in bread crumbs for the added flavour though.

2. Chop up your onions, tomatoes and red pepper.

3.  fry them in as much oil as you feel is required, I suggest about a tablespoon. Add a tiny bit of tomato puree to thicken it then season. My choice of seasoning was a Maggi cube, Parsley, a tiny bit of curry powder, the good ol All Purpose seasoning and a lot of chilli powder.

3. Lay out the Tortilla, cut the breast fillet into about four portions and assemble 2 on each tortilla wrap or if you are using the Iceland breaded chicken use 2 to a wrap.

4. Place the tomato and pepper mix on top. Then add your lettuce to the mix and smear on a little mayonnaise.

5. Pop back into the oveN for about 5 minutes to cook the tortilla. Take them out, cut in half and Enjoy!

This literally took me under an hour to make so whenever you're feeling a little peckish and want a quick healthy bite to eat. You know what to do!

Swimming!! (Effective Ways to Lose weight)

Guys!!!
The weight-loss journey continues!

Me and my house mates have said we wanted to try new things for a long time and make  more memories at Uni, rather than just sit at home the whole year, why not try new things and have some fun. So we decided we would go swimming together. Best evening so far!! I absolutely loved it. Now two of us couldn't swim until we met a nice man who told us about a Guy who could teach us to swim. Lo and behold we went to speak to him and by the time we left the swimming pool this evening I could capably swim forward and backward in the water.

Now don't get me wrong, I was not perfect, not by any standard and my swimming wasn't anything higher than the basic level of moving through the water but I had gone from drowning helplessly any time I attempted to swim to being able to move on my front and my back to and fro each side of the pool in less than 2 hours. If that is not miraculous, I'm not sure what is.

Any ways, to cut the long story short, when I got out of the water, I almost dropped because my legs had literally turned to rubber. I could not move and every single muscle in my body ached! I knew for sure it would hurt like hell tomorrow morning! Without even realising, I had worked out almost every muscle in my body. And whilst having fun as well.

So if you're finding going to the gym or working out at home a constant struggle, I would suggest you try swimming for a fun yet VERY effective way to burn off fat and get in shape whilst having fun! Sitting in the sauna certainly helps as well. And if you're lucky you might find a nice swimming instructor who would be willing to teach you for free!

Actions speak louder than words: Consistency

Hey Guys,
I've been meaning to write for so long because sooo much drama has been going on with my life but I just haven't been able to. At some point, I will update you but in the mean time there is a topic that has been reoccurring in my life and I wanted to share it with you guys. Firstly here is a quote:

'He may love you. He probably does. He probably thinks about you all the time. But that isn't what matters. What matters is what he is doing about it, and what he's doing about it is nothing. And if he is doing nothing, you most certainly shouldn't do anything. You need someone who goes out of their way to make it obvious that they want you in their life.'

Yes, this is very specific to relationships but the message behind this is clear; pay attention to what people do, not what they say. In my all my years on earth, in my dealings with boys, friends and the human race in general, the one thing I have noticed is that what people say and what people actually do can sometimes be WORLD apart.

The phrase 'easier said than done' springs to mind. It's an easy thing to say something, to make declarations, tell someone you like them, tell someone you'll help them out with something, actually going through with it on the other hand requires sacrifice and effort, many things a lot of people just aren't willing to give.

The point of this post? It's not just enough to rely and take at face value what someone says, most likely than not, it is an expression of what they want to say/be not necessarily who they are, watch their actions and make your decisions based on that.

At the same time make sure what you say and what you do align. Be a woman/man of your world. There's no need to go through life sending mixed messages and proclaiming things that are just not true or your true intentions. It messes people up and paints a negative image of you.

I know sometimes it's hard because you assume that
just because you mean everything you say other people do to but that's just not the case. Don't forget to Guard your heart!!

How to make Nigerian Fried Rice!

Hey Guys!

So recently on my weightloss journey post, I mentioned that I would be doing some healthy recipes and sharing them with you. Now you're probably thinking FRIED rice can't be all that healthy but there actually isn't that much fat in it and if you add a lot of vegetables the meal can be enjoyed as part of a balanced diet, so here is my step by step on how to make Nigerian Fried Rice.

Ingredients

2 TABLESPOONS OIL

2 CUPS OF RICE

SWEETCORN

SPRING ONIONS (for flavour and aroma)

ONIONS (to act as onions)

PRAWNS

TOMATOES

PEAS/MIXED VEG

CARROTS

PEPPERS(optional)

SEASONING (Listed in recipe)

PLANTAIN AND CHICKEN WITH SUPERMALT (Like real Africans do)

Recipes

1. Chop up all your vegetables and onions. Cut up all the vegetables into one bowl and then chop up all the onion into a separate bowl. 

2. Line the bottom of the pot with oil(use as much or as little as you think you need but you don't need a lot. Then add the onions, fry for about 3 minutes.

3. Wash your rice then add to the oil and make sure there is significantly more rice than oil and start to fry the rice. Mix it about often to stop it sticking to the pan, sticking together or burning. Do this for about 7 minutes.

4. Add water to the rice, not so much that there is excess water over the rice. Just enough that the water is just about level with the rice or a centimetre above it. At this point, add your seasoning. (All Purpose, Parsley, Curry powder-this gives it the yellow colour, mixed herbs, Maggi, chilli powder).#

5. Leave to cook, after a while, when the rice begins to soften and cook, add your vegetables, if the rice is drying out, add more water but be careful not to drown it and make it soggy and nasssty. With the vegetables added, Cover it with foil and let it simmer. Make sure to check up on it often and add water if required. 

6. When the rice becomes soft enough to your taste, take off the boil.

7. Serve and accompany with Plantain and Chicken. (Comment if you would like a post on how I season my chicken.)

I wish I could have given you step by step pictures as well but my phone gave up on me midway. But this is the final product. I served this to a couple of my friends who loved it and praised it highly but then again they're my friends  so they may have just said that but I'm gonna take it regardless.

Finally shout out to my mummy for teaching me how to cook and increasing my bride price by N100 000.

5 Things Life at Uni has taught me!

Hey Guys,

In case you weren't aware I'm a current Law student and I am in my second year. I have gone through fresher's week, first year, faux freshers week (when 2nd years pretend they're freshers to get free stuff but shh) and I'm going through probably the hardest education period of my life. Nevertheless Uni has been very very interesting and this is 5 things that life at university so far as taught me.

1. You will miss your parents like crazy!
I really don't know how to make you understand how much you will miss home! During the  first few weeks when you're having the time of your life (or throwing up your internal organs depending on how you get down) you'll love the freedom and vow to never go home again. But as you start to settle in you realise there's no mum to cook for you, no one to help you out. No family that you're used to and it starts to dawn on you that you are living with virtual strangers.

Me and my mum weren't that close before I came to uni but 2 years in I literally have no qualms about saying I see her as my best friend. In first year we spoke on the phone almost every day. She was giving me advice about Friends, laughing at me when my jollof rice flopped (this happened a couple times) and just generally being a listening ear. Even my brother the big tough lad admitted that he missed home and wished he could stay longer when he came back for the weekend.

2. Learn to hide your food!!!!!

Why? you may ask...because there will always be a rat like person living with or somewhere near you. My thief story is a funny one because not only was our food going missing every night, (crumble, bottles of wine, eggs, MILKY BARS (MY milky bars ill have you know, and you know how much i love my chocolate) but the perpetrator was our next door neighbours who had been using the adjoining fire escape to break into our flat every night. Needless to say we didn't know this and blamed  a fellow housemate who then stopped talking to us for the rest of the year and eventually moved out. (I don't blame her)

Be creative in hiding your stuff, if it doesn't need to be in the fridge I#d say you should put it in your room. People get hungry and when lazy ass people see free food, they wont be afraid to help themselves.

3. University is NOT easy!
You're probably thinking well of course! But hold on let me explain, before coming to Uni, all everyone said was Uni is easy! It's easier than A levels blah blah, yeah all that rubbish is WRONG! Uni is soooo hard and if you don't put 110% in you will fail and it will not be funny because your resits are capped at 40%. So don't come with the mentality that you can chill. I mean you can but you would be chilling with a fail so...

4. You will not find your husband or even a serious relationship at Uni!
If you're reading this and you're in a serious relationship at uni then lol, Just ignore this post but I know a lot of girls come to uni with the mentality of oh yes this is my chance to be in a serious relationship. Me and my boothang will be chilling, watching movies, I'll be cooking for him! LIES! upon arriving at Uni, you will realise Guys don't want to settle down. They wanna watching movies, but with as many girls as possible and 'watching movies' doesn't mean watching movies. You'd be wrong if you went to a boys house expecting to watch movies, It means a WHOOOOLE other thing. I won't get into that here. On the other hand if you go for much older men or post grads you may have a slight chance of relationship status,

5. You will find human beings without the ability to feed themselves.
Yes somehow there are a loooooot of individuals who are unprepared for the real world. They cannot cook! Common cooking to feed themselves they are unable to do. Hence the race begins to get as many girls to cook for them as possible! watch out! Don't be one of the many chefs who are trekking to asda to come and cook for a guy who's thinking about what the next girl will cook him tomorrow, Be wise and stingy with your food!!!

What did you learn at Uni?? Drop a comment, and don't forget to subscribe and share!!

Breaking Bad habits!!

Hey guys!! 

I am feeling amazing today! Why is this? Because this is the 5th day on which I am chocolate free. Don't think I'm exaggerating when I tell you I am addicted to chocolate, I actually am. I can eat this brown devil every single hour of every single day and still not get tired of it, I am in LOVE!! But I am no stranger to the dangers of stuffing my face and body with such a high dose of sugar so as part of my weight loss journey I decided I was going to try and give up chocolate for at least a week.

If I'm completely honest, I never thought I would get this far and I won't lie to you, on the second day I went in to Tesco's and bought a massive tube of Smarties and a family sized Cadbury bar but I summoned strength from somewhere and refrained from eating them but let me tell you now, it is most definitely not easy. So to commemorate this impressive milestone in my life (I'm 100% serious), I decided to do a 5 tips to breaking bad or maybe even good habits!

1. Have someone who is holding you accountable!!
I could not do this without my flatmate's support! Literally the only reason I didn't end up eating the Smarties bar is because she took them and hid them from me. Any time I get weak or start rolling on the floor begging for chocolate, she's there to slap some sense into my head. (Sometimes literally, and she doesn't hit lightly either.)

2. Find a replacement.
Constantly knowing you're missing something will only make it more likely for you to go back to that thing. If you have something else taking it's place, it'll take you longer to notice that there is actually something missing. And if the thing you're trying to give up is bad make sure you replace it with something healthy so you're not just swapping bad for bad. Eat a carrot!

3. Going cold turkey doesn't always work.
If you're body is so used to having something every single day, you telling it NO will not go down well and in some cases it won't go down at all. Trust me on this one. The craziness I've displayed for my house mates because of this chocolate business is enough to make them hate me. If you can't go cold turkey, why not try reducing the amount. you eat. If you have 5 a day, try 3 a day, then 1 a day till gradually none. 

4. It's mind over body.
The addiction or bad habit is mainly in your head and thus is mainly about self control. If you're determined mentally to refrain from doing something, your body is more likely to follow your lead. Control your mind and you can control your body. Ultimately it's a matter of self control, try and exercise it!

3. Be easy on yourself!
Addiction is not the end of the world! Neither is a bad habit. Breaking it is a journey and it's okay to slip up along the way. If you are quitting cold turkey like me, it's okay if you slip up sometimes, what matters is that  you get yourself back up and start again! If you don't give in, great, but even if you do that shouldn't stop you from trying again. 

Weight Loss journey!

Hey Guys!

So I just finished an intense work out session with my flatmate and I am feeling soooo good! Never realised how good exercise actually makes you feel. When you're doing it, it feels like the world would end anytime soon, but as soon as you're done,you just feel happy that you're healthier and proud of yourself that you've achieved so much.

I've been meaning to get right for a while in terms of my health and fitness but I've just been too lazy so when my flatmate burst in and announced she wanted to get fit in 6 weeks, I thought why not, let me use this opportunity. Now I have the type of body that unless you look closely, it looks on point, behind closed doors, only I know what's really going on but by embarking on this journey I'm hoping to make my body look good in public and in private.

Of course this means fixing my diet as well! For those who know me they know I am literally the queen of chocolate, like I consume immense amounts of chocolate in one sitting and by one sitting I mean several large packets a day, but today I was able to control myself and didn't buy a single chocolate(boy the struggle was real, trust me!!) but it made me feel proud of myself. (I ended up buying do-nuts to substitute the sugar rush but shhh no one needs to know that.)

So basically this post is to make sure I'm accountable to someone and hopefully guilt trip me into sticking to this journey. If I give up after a few days I may just delete this post and pretend this never happened lol. Feel free to start the journey with me and I hope to be posting pictures, recipes, and progress throughout the phase.

In the meantime, here are some links to some of my favourite work out videos:

1. Tae Bo is actually amazing, like seriously, this guy does not play about. He throws you in the deep end and expects you to swim!! Fast!! But if you're resilient you will love the results.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FVwv0bUEJpE

2. Only just came across this today and I am soo in love with it. It's a 2 part dance routine. One african themed and one carribean themed. I found myself sweating by the bucket but yet having fun. I definitely reccomend this if you are a beginner and if you're a good dancer you will love it even more.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pq7IDD0Ye1Y

3. Everybody loves some Zumba!! This put a smile on my face and got me me working up a sweat.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h-RMdXvs6bM

I'm sorry they're not sorry!

So you're probably thinking what an odd title for this post aye?

Well the thing is often-times in life people are going to hurt you or wrong you in some way. Naturally when someone hurts or wrongs someone, the normal reaction is to apologize (whether they mean it or not is another issue) but generally when someone has been caught out in the wrong they apologize, it's just the right thing to do. Right?

Surprisingly that isn't always the case. I suppose what spurred this post is that I was thinking about this person in my recent past who HURT me like crazy. Like when I say this person hurt me, they H-U-R-T me. I wasn't just hurt though, I was humiliated, embarrassed, deceived, any more negative adjectives you can think of! Yet later when I ran into this person, they acted as if nothing had happened, they smiled and talked to me as if the past few months had just been in my head. (Seriously, they had me questioning whether I had dreamt up the whole thing.) 

Naturally I expected them to apologize for treating me like a dirty handkerchief (best analogy I could think of) but they didn't and that threw me. I didn't know what to do at that point. Was I supposed to just forgive them irrespective of the fact they clearly didn't ask nor want my forgiveness, or was i supposed to remain hurt and wronged until such time as they came round to apologizing. (It increasingly became clear I would be waiting for this till my afro turned grey). For a long time I held on to resentment, ever ready to spew how i truly felt at them whenever they eventually came to apologize. (My pride had me thinking this day was going to come real soon.)

But then at a point I realized I was just hurting myself. I can't refuse to let go of the situation merely because they could not be mature enough to apologize and own up to their wrongs. You need to realize that in life you won't always get an apology when you're wronged. Your job is to learn to move on regardless. Don't spend your whole life waiting for an apology that may never come. You may just wake up one day realising that you've lived a bitter life holding on to the pain caused by someone who probably didn't care enough to apologize for the dastardly way they treated you.

Learn to accept the apology you never got! If you have to apologize to yourself on their behalf do so, but don't cling to pain and resentment in the hope of getting an apology that will bring closure. Create your own closure. I apologize for all the hurt and heartbreak and sleepless nights, and wounded pride you had to ensure because one ashawo bastard wanted to do baby boy(nigerian terminology there) but don't let that stop you being open and receptive to love. 

Don't forget to guard your heart guys!! 

Boots! Boots! Boots! Part 2!!

4. The UGGS

No Boot list would be complete without a traditional set of Uggs, it's like the potatoes of roast dinner (random analogy there but there you go), These are of course not real (Are you noticing a pattern here?) but they serve me well when I'm feeling SUPER casual that day or just running to the store. I got mine in a lovely navy colour and also have a stone one to match. 

5. The ankle boots!

These are just a staple! I'm not gonna bore you with details but who doesn't need ankle boots huh? Great with jeans, skirts, maybe not dresses but you get the gist. This lovely pair was on sale from sports direct for only £13!!! I deffo love the Aztec print too though! 

6.The fur wedge!

This one was mostly me being greedy but if you can't have fur during winter time, I don't know when you can. Wedge also makes it a little more versatile so sometimes if I'm feeling like beyonce and don't want to wear flats to uni, I can put on my wedge boots and feel special without people judging me for wearing heels.

7. Finally...The shoe boots!!! (aka Booties)

These are literally the best things I have ever invested in!! They literally just go with everything! Like seriously, Everything!! Jeans and a shirt, a nice body con dress, a midi skirt, an a line skirt, you name it, these shoes will work it! Even more amazing is that I got it on sale for a very REDUCED  price at boohoo, I am definitely in love!

So those are my 7 staple booties for the winter season. Feel free to comment below if you would like me to do a post on how I style each shoe otherwise feel free to follow the page!!

Boots! Boots! Boots!

Hey Guys!

So winter season is upon us and I thought what better way to get ready than to do a Boot Post! Most of my friends know I'm not really into Boots cause I always feel like they make me look short and stumpy (I'm not, I'm just short of 5,7) but in my head boots remove the 7 at the end so I generally stay away from them but this winter I looked at my cupboard and thought i actually have a decent amount of booties! So here I am showing you my 2014 boot collection. Boots I believe every girl needs in her wardrobe this summer to tie all outfits together. Now I've had some of the shoes for a while so they won't be looking 100% fantastic but I'm expecting you to use your expert imagination to picture what they would have looked like when I bought them so starting us off is:

1. The wedged Sneaker

Lool, yes I know they're trainers to us Londoners but I'm an honorary american for this post so I shall refer to them as sneakers. I know these have  taken the world by storm lately, ranging from the ugly mould coloured ones to the jewelled ones so I thought why not grab myself a pair. Something about having the grace of walking in heels whilst having the sporty look really appeals to me. It's just the most stylish way to do casj! I got mine in a green, red and white pair from eBay for a really cheap price.



2. The Fake Timbs
Obviously, the fake part is optional, if you happen to be rocking real Timberlands that is great!! Lol, i actually do have a real pair but I saw this stylish pair from Asos and I snapped it up real quick. This is for when I wanna go for the Rough Masculine look so I pair it with Jeans and a T-shirt or even when I want to balance out a feminine outfit So I go for a shirt, skirt and throw on my Timbs.



3. The Knee Length Boots
This was my biggest indecisive purchase! Like I'm naturally indecisive but it must have taken me at least 5 days to decide whether or not to buy this
pair! The problem of making me look short and stocky again. It actually does do that in some outfits but when I throw them on with a pair of skinny Jeans, they not only look great but they also make me feel super sexy. The versatile black colour also makes it a win with any outfit. I snapped this up on sale at Boohoo.

Stay tuned for part 2 where I'll show you the rest of my boots collection!!

Learn to be your own best friend!

Hey guys!

Two posts in a day! Feeling very bloggy indeed.

This post as the title suggests is about learning to be your own best friend. Now I'm not saying tell your 'best friend' you've replaced her or never let anyone get close to you. On the contrary, human interaction is an important part of life but many people underestimate the importance of being YOUR own best friend. 

Do you know many people would bulk at the idea of spending a whole  day with just themselves, or wail after a day without constant notifications on their phone that 'nobody loves them',(I know you do it! Don't lie!)  why is it such a crime to be alone, better yet how have we come to the point where spending 24 hours by yourself is unimaginable and wrong? 

Think of it this way, when you were born, you knew zero amount of people, zilch, you came out literally on your own, no bestie holding your hand or boyfriend telling you you're beautiful, When you die, again that's a task you will be doing by yourself. (No matter how much your boyfriend tells you he will die for you, it's a lie, he definitely won't, and the most your best friend can do is tell people what a great friend you were, so why is it that in the interim, we spend more time with these people than ourselves.

When are people going to start realising that you are all you have got in this world, literally! Recent events have shown me that no matter how much trust you put in someone, how close you two are, how 'tight' you are, how much you're willing to do for them, you could lose a friendship at the drop of a hat. It's that simple. People are human beings and as such nobody is perfect, They will make mistakes and that often includes, hurting or betraying you. You can't depend so much on people.  The only person you should put 100% trust in is yourself. (And you know even you can do some stupid crap at times.)

If you're like me who falls hard and fast for people and develops close relationships with people you come across, you can imagine how it must hurt to find out someone you trusted wasn't all that worthy of your trust. The best way to deal with that? Make yourself no 1! That way even if they're out of your life, you've still got your most important friend. Guess who that is? Yep, YOU! You're still there, and if no one can make you as happy or as confident or as fun as you can, losing people won't be that big a deal, cause you haven't really lost anything major.

Take time out to get to know yourself!! Spend time with yourself and enjoy it. You need people around yes, but it's more important to have yourself, trust me, people come and go (no matter how hard you try, you can't go anywhere, you're stuck with yourself) so learn to like it and finally:

Remember to GUARD YOUR HEARTS!!

Believe people when they show you who they are!

Hey guys!

It's been 2 years since I first created this blog and wrote a post. But rather than start a fresh blog, something told me to stick with this one, for some reason I guess Writer's Bloc just pretty much covers everything for me. So 2 years on, I'm back in the 'blogging game' and  I have a lot to blog about, only difference is now I'm more grown up (literally and otherwise). I have my opinions now and I know why I have them! My writing style is quite quirky so sometimes you'll read something and be like whaaaaaat? But don't worry that's just me, oh also sometimes my African side comes out, again that's just me writing how I would speak. So make sure you follow, share and keep checking the blog! Also feel free to comment and leave your opinions and suggestions.

Without further ado; let's talk about human beings. Now this will mainly talk to the females although it may be true for some guys but for some reason, from what I've seen, guys tend to get the message a lot faster than women. For a guy, if someone acts some type of way towards them, they tend to get the message pretty quick and get to stepping, but women....
We women like to make up excuses for people; 
'he wasn't himself' 
'he wouldn't have said that if....' 
'He's not usually like that'
 'I probably provoked him..'
 'If I hadn't said that.'

People are adults and as such they choose to do what they do. Irrespective of what you said, the time of day or even what they had for lunch, they won't do or say something that is not within their capability. If they said they said they wanted to get with your friend after kissing you (first of all, GIRL YOU NEED TO RUN NOW! That is not okay) then don't say he was only joking and keep talking to him. Talk to your two feet and keep it moving. Its not a joke if you're not laughing, and me and you both know you're not laughing at that comment.

The point of this is when someone starts to show you bits of themselves, even if its not consistent with who you thought the person is or what you would like them to be, it is them categorically testing you to see how much Iranu (Nonsense) you will take, show them you're not an idiot and DROP them like they're hot. When you stick around making excuses and lying to yourself is when you make them think it's okay to treat you like rubbish and oh boy trust me they will. (This is topic for another post,)

It may seem like I'm talking only to the ladies but this is for everyone in general. If a girl keeps making comments, listen to what she's saying. The quote 'there's no smoke without fire' is there for a reason! These thoughts don't randomly pop into anyone's head. Its coming from a place within them. They are giving you a private screening of what is going on in their head, some pretending its a film and start realising this is reality. If someone is joking about not wanting to be with you, using you or disrespecting you, they are stylishly telling you that they don't want to be with you, they want to use you or plan to disrespect you. My dear, it really is that simple. 


Don't wait till the 50th time to realise someone is a dirty rassclart pigeon when they've been showing you from day one that they were never serious.

GUYS, GUARD YOUR HEART ! Believe people when they show  you who they really are!
Love you guys x