5 Things Life at Uni has taught me!

Hey Guys,

In case you weren't aware I'm a current Law student and I am in my second year. I have gone through fresher's week, first year, faux freshers week (when 2nd years pretend they're freshers to get free stuff but shh) and I'm going through probably the hardest education period of my life. Nevertheless Uni has been very very interesting and this is 5 things that life at university so far as taught me.

1. You will miss your parents like crazy!
I really don't know how to make you understand how much you will miss home! During the  first few weeks when you're having the time of your life (or throwing up your internal organs depending on how you get down) you'll love the freedom and vow to never go home again. But as you start to settle in you realise there's no mum to cook for you, no one to help you out. No family that you're used to and it starts to dawn on you that you are living with virtual strangers.

Me and my mum weren't that close before I came to uni but 2 years in I literally have no qualms about saying I see her as my best friend. In first year we spoke on the phone almost every day. She was giving me advice about Friends, laughing at me when my jollof rice flopped (this happened a couple times) and just generally being a listening ear. Even my brother the big tough lad admitted that he missed home and wished he could stay longer when he came back for the weekend.

2. Learn to hide your food!!!!!

Why? you may ask...because there will always be a rat like person living with or somewhere near you. My thief story is a funny one because not only was our food going missing every night, (crumble, bottles of wine, eggs, MILKY BARS (MY milky bars ill have you know, and you know how much i love my chocolate) but the perpetrator was our next door neighbours who had been using the adjoining fire escape to break into our flat every night. Needless to say we didn't know this and blamed  a fellow housemate who then stopped talking to us for the rest of the year and eventually moved out. (I don't blame her)

Be creative in hiding your stuff, if it doesn't need to be in the fridge I#d say you should put it in your room. People get hungry and when lazy ass people see free food, they wont be afraid to help themselves.

3. University is NOT easy!
You're probably thinking well of course! But hold on let me explain, before coming to Uni, all everyone said was Uni is easy! It's easier than A levels blah blah, yeah all that rubbish is WRONG! Uni is soooo hard and if you don't put 110% in you will fail and it will not be funny because your resits are capped at 40%. So don't come with the mentality that you can chill. I mean you can but you would be chilling with a fail so...

4. You will not find your husband or even a serious relationship at Uni!
If you're reading this and you're in a serious relationship at uni then lol, Just ignore this post but I know a lot of girls come to uni with the mentality of oh yes this is my chance to be in a serious relationship. Me and my boothang will be chilling, watching movies, I'll be cooking for him! LIES! upon arriving at Uni, you will realise Guys don't want to settle down. They wanna watching movies, but with as many girls as possible and 'watching movies' doesn't mean watching movies. You'd be wrong if you went to a boys house expecting to watch movies, It means a WHOOOOLE other thing. I won't get into that here. On the other hand if you go for much older men or post grads you may have a slight chance of relationship status,

5. You will find human beings without the ability to feed themselves.
Yes somehow there are a loooooot of individuals who are unprepared for the real world. They cannot cook! Common cooking to feed themselves they are unable to do. Hence the race begins to get as many girls to cook for them as possible! watch out! Don't be one of the many chefs who are trekking to asda to come and cook for a guy who's thinking about what the next girl will cook him tomorrow, Be wise and stingy with your food!!!

What did you learn at Uni?? Drop a comment, and don't forget to subscribe and share!!

Breaking Bad habits!!

Hey guys!! 

I am feeling amazing today! Why is this? Because this is the 5th day on which I am chocolate free. Don't think I'm exaggerating when I tell you I am addicted to chocolate, I actually am. I can eat this brown devil every single hour of every single day and still not get tired of it, I am in LOVE!! But I am no stranger to the dangers of stuffing my face and body with such a high dose of sugar so as part of my weight loss journey I decided I was going to try and give up chocolate for at least a week.

If I'm completely honest, I never thought I would get this far and I won't lie to you, on the second day I went in to Tesco's and bought a massive tube of Smarties and a family sized Cadbury bar but I summoned strength from somewhere and refrained from eating them but let me tell you now, it is most definitely not easy. So to commemorate this impressive milestone in my life (I'm 100% serious), I decided to do a 5 tips to breaking bad or maybe even good habits!

1. Have someone who is holding you accountable!!
I could not do this without my flatmate's support! Literally the only reason I didn't end up eating the Smarties bar is because she took them and hid them from me. Any time I get weak or start rolling on the floor begging for chocolate, she's there to slap some sense into my head. (Sometimes literally, and she doesn't hit lightly either.)

2. Find a replacement.
Constantly knowing you're missing something will only make it more likely for you to go back to that thing. If you have something else taking it's place, it'll take you longer to notice that there is actually something missing. And if the thing you're trying to give up is bad make sure you replace it with something healthy so you're not just swapping bad for bad. Eat a carrot!

3. Going cold turkey doesn't always work.
If you're body is so used to having something every single day, you telling it NO will not go down well and in some cases it won't go down at all. Trust me on this one. The craziness I've displayed for my house mates because of this chocolate business is enough to make them hate me. If you can't go cold turkey, why not try reducing the amount. you eat. If you have 5 a day, try 3 a day, then 1 a day till gradually none. 

4. It's mind over body.
The addiction or bad habit is mainly in your head and thus is mainly about self control. If you're determined mentally to refrain from doing something, your body is more likely to follow your lead. Control your mind and you can control your body. Ultimately it's a matter of self control, try and exercise it!

3. Be easy on yourself!
Addiction is not the end of the world! Neither is a bad habit. Breaking it is a journey and it's okay to slip up along the way. If you are quitting cold turkey like me, it's okay if you slip up sometimes, what matters is that  you get yourself back up and start again! If you don't give in, great, but even if you do that shouldn't stop you from trying again. 

Weight Loss journey!

Hey Guys!

So I just finished an intense work out session with my flatmate and I am feeling soooo good! Never realised how good exercise actually makes you feel. When you're doing it, it feels like the world would end anytime soon, but as soon as you're done,you just feel happy that you're healthier and proud of yourself that you've achieved so much.

I've been meaning to get right for a while in terms of my health and fitness but I've just been too lazy so when my flatmate burst in and announced she wanted to get fit in 6 weeks, I thought why not, let me use this opportunity. Now I have the type of body that unless you look closely, it looks on point, behind closed doors, only I know what's really going on but by embarking on this journey I'm hoping to make my body look good in public and in private.

Of course this means fixing my diet as well! For those who know me they know I am literally the queen of chocolate, like I consume immense amounts of chocolate in one sitting and by one sitting I mean several large packets a day, but today I was able to control myself and didn't buy a single chocolate(boy the struggle was real, trust me!!) but it made me feel proud of myself. (I ended up buying do-nuts to substitute the sugar rush but shhh no one needs to know that.)

So basically this post is to make sure I'm accountable to someone and hopefully guilt trip me into sticking to this journey. If I give up after a few days I may just delete this post and pretend this never happened lol. Feel free to start the journey with me and I hope to be posting pictures, recipes, and progress throughout the phase.

In the meantime, here are some links to some of my favourite work out videos:

1. Tae Bo is actually amazing, like seriously, this guy does not play about. He throws you in the deep end and expects you to swim!! Fast!! But if you're resilient you will love the results.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FVwv0bUEJpE

2. Only just came across this today and I am soo in love with it. It's a 2 part dance routine. One african themed and one carribean themed. I found myself sweating by the bucket but yet having fun. I definitely reccomend this if you are a beginner and if you're a good dancer you will love it even more.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pq7IDD0Ye1Y

3. Everybody loves some Zumba!! This put a smile on my face and got me me working up a sweat.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h-RMdXvs6bM

I'm sorry they're not sorry!

So you're probably thinking what an odd title for this post aye?

Well the thing is often-times in life people are going to hurt you or wrong you in some way. Naturally when someone hurts or wrongs someone, the normal reaction is to apologize (whether they mean it or not is another issue) but generally when someone has been caught out in the wrong they apologize, it's just the right thing to do. Right?

Surprisingly that isn't always the case. I suppose what spurred this post is that I was thinking about this person in my recent past who HURT me like crazy. Like when I say this person hurt me, they H-U-R-T me. I wasn't just hurt though, I was humiliated, embarrassed, deceived, any more negative adjectives you can think of! Yet later when I ran into this person, they acted as if nothing had happened, they smiled and talked to me as if the past few months had just been in my head. (Seriously, they had me questioning whether I had dreamt up the whole thing.) 

Naturally I expected them to apologize for treating me like a dirty handkerchief (best analogy I could think of) but they didn't and that threw me. I didn't know what to do at that point. Was I supposed to just forgive them irrespective of the fact they clearly didn't ask nor want my forgiveness, or was i supposed to remain hurt and wronged until such time as they came round to apologizing. (It increasingly became clear I would be waiting for this till my afro turned grey). For a long time I held on to resentment, ever ready to spew how i truly felt at them whenever they eventually came to apologize. (My pride had me thinking this day was going to come real soon.)

But then at a point I realized I was just hurting myself. I can't refuse to let go of the situation merely because they could not be mature enough to apologize and own up to their wrongs. You need to realize that in life you won't always get an apology when you're wronged. Your job is to learn to move on regardless. Don't spend your whole life waiting for an apology that may never come. You may just wake up one day realising that you've lived a bitter life holding on to the pain caused by someone who probably didn't care enough to apologize for the dastardly way they treated you.

Learn to accept the apology you never got! If you have to apologize to yourself on their behalf do so, but don't cling to pain and resentment in the hope of getting an apology that will bring closure. Create your own closure. I apologize for all the hurt and heartbreak and sleepless nights, and wounded pride you had to ensure because one ashawo bastard wanted to do baby boy(nigerian terminology there) but don't let that stop you being open and receptive to love. 

Don't forget to guard your heart guys!! 

Boots! Boots! Boots! Part 2!!

4. The UGGS

No Boot list would be complete without a traditional set of Uggs, it's like the potatoes of roast dinner (random analogy there but there you go), These are of course not real (Are you noticing a pattern here?) but they serve me well when I'm feeling SUPER casual that day or just running to the store. I got mine in a lovely navy colour and also have a stone one to match. 

5. The ankle boots!

These are just a staple! I'm not gonna bore you with details but who doesn't need ankle boots huh? Great with jeans, skirts, maybe not dresses but you get the gist. This lovely pair was on sale from sports direct for only £13!!! I deffo love the Aztec print too though! 

6.The fur wedge!

This one was mostly me being greedy but if you can't have fur during winter time, I don't know when you can. Wedge also makes it a little more versatile so sometimes if I'm feeling like beyonce and don't want to wear flats to uni, I can put on my wedge boots and feel special without people judging me for wearing heels.

7. Finally...The shoe boots!!! (aka Booties)

These are literally the best things I have ever invested in!! They literally just go with everything! Like seriously, Everything!! Jeans and a shirt, a nice body con dress, a midi skirt, an a line skirt, you name it, these shoes will work it! Even more amazing is that I got it on sale for a very REDUCED  price at boohoo, I am definitely in love!

So those are my 7 staple booties for the winter season. Feel free to comment below if you would like me to do a post on how I style each shoe otherwise feel free to follow the page!!

Boots! Boots! Boots!

Hey Guys!

So winter season is upon us and I thought what better way to get ready than to do a Boot Post! Most of my friends know I'm not really into Boots cause I always feel like they make me look short and stumpy (I'm not, I'm just short of 5,7) but in my head boots remove the 7 at the end so I generally stay away from them but this winter I looked at my cupboard and thought i actually have a decent amount of booties! So here I am showing you my 2014 boot collection. Boots I believe every girl needs in her wardrobe this summer to tie all outfits together. Now I've had some of the shoes for a while so they won't be looking 100% fantastic but I'm expecting you to use your expert imagination to picture what they would have looked like when I bought them so starting us off is:

1. The wedged Sneaker

Lool, yes I know they're trainers to us Londoners but I'm an honorary american for this post so I shall refer to them as sneakers. I know these have  taken the world by storm lately, ranging from the ugly mould coloured ones to the jewelled ones so I thought why not grab myself a pair. Something about having the grace of walking in heels whilst having the sporty look really appeals to me. It's just the most stylish way to do casj! I got mine in a green, red and white pair from eBay for a really cheap price.



2. The Fake Timbs
Obviously, the fake part is optional, if you happen to be rocking real Timberlands that is great!! Lol, i actually do have a real pair but I saw this stylish pair from Asos and I snapped it up real quick. This is for when I wanna go for the Rough Masculine look so I pair it with Jeans and a T-shirt or even when I want to balance out a feminine outfit So I go for a shirt, skirt and throw on my Timbs.



3. The Knee Length Boots
This was my biggest indecisive purchase! Like I'm naturally indecisive but it must have taken me at least 5 days to decide whether or not to buy this
pair! The problem of making me look short and stocky again. It actually does do that in some outfits but when I throw them on with a pair of skinny Jeans, they not only look great but they also make me feel super sexy. The versatile black colour also makes it a win with any outfit. I snapped this up on sale at Boohoo.

Stay tuned for part 2 where I'll show you the rest of my boots collection!!

Learn to be your own best friend!

Hey guys!

Two posts in a day! Feeling very bloggy indeed.

This post as the title suggests is about learning to be your own best friend. Now I'm not saying tell your 'best friend' you've replaced her or never let anyone get close to you. On the contrary, human interaction is an important part of life but many people underestimate the importance of being YOUR own best friend. 

Do you know many people would bulk at the idea of spending a whole  day with just themselves, or wail after a day without constant notifications on their phone that 'nobody loves them',(I know you do it! Don't lie!)  why is it such a crime to be alone, better yet how have we come to the point where spending 24 hours by yourself is unimaginable and wrong? 

Think of it this way, when you were born, you knew zero amount of people, zilch, you came out literally on your own, no bestie holding your hand or boyfriend telling you you're beautiful, When you die, again that's a task you will be doing by yourself. (No matter how much your boyfriend tells you he will die for you, it's a lie, he definitely won't, and the most your best friend can do is tell people what a great friend you were, so why is it that in the interim, we spend more time with these people than ourselves.

When are people going to start realising that you are all you have got in this world, literally! Recent events have shown me that no matter how much trust you put in someone, how close you two are, how 'tight' you are, how much you're willing to do for them, you could lose a friendship at the drop of a hat. It's that simple. People are human beings and as such nobody is perfect, They will make mistakes and that often includes, hurting or betraying you. You can't depend so much on people.  The only person you should put 100% trust in is yourself. (And you know even you can do some stupid crap at times.)

If you're like me who falls hard and fast for people and develops close relationships with people you come across, you can imagine how it must hurt to find out someone you trusted wasn't all that worthy of your trust. The best way to deal with that? Make yourself no 1! That way even if they're out of your life, you've still got your most important friend. Guess who that is? Yep, YOU! You're still there, and if no one can make you as happy or as confident or as fun as you can, losing people won't be that big a deal, cause you haven't really lost anything major.

Take time out to get to know yourself!! Spend time with yourself and enjoy it. You need people around yes, but it's more important to have yourself, trust me, people come and go (no matter how hard you try, you can't go anywhere, you're stuck with yourself) so learn to like it and finally:

Remember to GUARD YOUR HEARTS!!

Believe people when they show you who they are!

Hey guys!

It's been 2 years since I first created this blog and wrote a post. But rather than start a fresh blog, something told me to stick with this one, for some reason I guess Writer's Bloc just pretty much covers everything for me. So 2 years on, I'm back in the 'blogging game' and  I have a lot to blog about, only difference is now I'm more grown up (literally and otherwise). I have my opinions now and I know why I have them! My writing style is quite quirky so sometimes you'll read something and be like whaaaaaat? But don't worry that's just me, oh also sometimes my African side comes out, again that's just me writing how I would speak. So make sure you follow, share and keep checking the blog! Also feel free to comment and leave your opinions and suggestions.

Without further ado; let's talk about human beings. Now this will mainly talk to the females although it may be true for some guys but for some reason, from what I've seen, guys tend to get the message a lot faster than women. For a guy, if someone acts some type of way towards them, they tend to get the message pretty quick and get to stepping, but women....
We women like to make up excuses for people; 
'he wasn't himself' 
'he wouldn't have said that if....' 
'He's not usually like that'
 'I probably provoked him..'
 'If I hadn't said that.'

People are adults and as such they choose to do what they do. Irrespective of what you said, the time of day or even what they had for lunch, they won't do or say something that is not within their capability. If they said they said they wanted to get with your friend after kissing you (first of all, GIRL YOU NEED TO RUN NOW! That is not okay) then don't say he was only joking and keep talking to him. Talk to your two feet and keep it moving. Its not a joke if you're not laughing, and me and you both know you're not laughing at that comment.

The point of this is when someone starts to show you bits of themselves, even if its not consistent with who you thought the person is or what you would like them to be, it is them categorically testing you to see how much Iranu (Nonsense) you will take, show them you're not an idiot and DROP them like they're hot. When you stick around making excuses and lying to yourself is when you make them think it's okay to treat you like rubbish and oh boy trust me they will. (This is topic for another post,)

It may seem like I'm talking only to the ladies but this is for everyone in general. If a girl keeps making comments, listen to what she's saying. The quote 'there's no smoke without fire' is there for a reason! These thoughts don't randomly pop into anyone's head. Its coming from a place within them. They are giving you a private screening of what is going on in their head, some pretending its a film and start realising this is reality. If someone is joking about not wanting to be with you, using you or disrespecting you, they are stylishly telling you that they don't want to be with you, they want to use you or plan to disrespect you. My dear, it really is that simple. 


Don't wait till the 50th time to realise someone is a dirty rassclart pigeon when they've been showing you from day one that they were never serious.

GUYS, GUARD YOUR HEART ! Believe people when they show  you who they really are!
Love you guys x