Hey Guys,
I know what you're going to say, where the hell have i been? That's a good question but we don't have time to get into it on this post! I also have a stir fry recipe coming up for you but in the meantime, i wanted to come and quickly talk about what's been on my mind for a while.
Lately I've found myself being super concerned with other people and the choices they make with their lives. If someone claims they're a christian but their actions and words don't really display such i get super concerned and start trying to figure out why, or if someone does or believes something that i absolutely strongly disagree with, i ponder about it for a long time wondering why? But I recently realized that It's none of my damn business! People are free to think and do whatever the hell they please, it has nothing to do with me. Part of the fact that we're individuals is that we can think the way we want and do what we want. We may not necessarily agree with someone's choice or think they're doing something good, but we're not responsible for them. Its not our job to police other people and their actions. Do you and what you think is right and let others do what they think is right.
We don't have to get all up in arms about other people's chocies and way of thinking. In the end, time will reveal all. In as much as we may want the best for our friends and the people around us, we're not responsible for them.
I don't know if you completely understand my point in this post cause it's something I'm struggling with myself but comment down below if you do! And i will see you guys hopefully soon!
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Showing posts with label friends. Show all posts
Showing posts with label friends. Show all posts
Friday, 15 April 2016
Thursday, 16 July 2015
Don't take it Personally!
Hey Guys,I feel like I'm forever apologising for being MIA but sorry for not posting in a while. I've been meaning to post as there are quite a few experiences to share with you. But this one first.
Don't take it personal! Ever! You're probably wondering what I'm on about now. What I mean is that sometimes in life you expect certain people to be there for you. You swear by anything that whatever happens they will always have your back and you convince yourself that they are the one person in the world that can never let you down. (ha!) That is the biggest mistake you can possibly make because nobody is perfect. As long as they're human beings, they will always let you down. Maybe intentionally, maybe accidentally. Maybe they're going through their own crap and don't even realise what you're going through. Whatever the reason, my advice to you is not to take it personally.
It's not always about you and if you get upset every time
someone you expect to be there for you isn't, you end up giving yourself high blood pressure or hypertension or whatever because you will constantly be disappointed. Just think to yourself whenever you're in that situation, no they wasn't there for me in this particular instance but does that erase all the times they have been there for you in the past, or the times they could be in the future. Because somebody lets you down now doesn't mean they don't care about you or that it was a direct attack to you. Sometimes the person just made a mistake. Let them know how you feel if it bothers you that much and move on with your life.Lesson #2
Which brings me to my second lesson of the post which is that you should learn to be strong for yourself. Stop relying on other people to be there for you in difficult situations because as you seen, they aren't alwas there. Nobody can care about you in the way that you can care about yourself so stop expecting them to. If you need someone to hold you, hold yourself, if you need advice, advice yourself. Whatever you are looking for in someone else, I guarantee you can provide for yourself. It will save you a lot of heartache in the future.
Until next time,
Blessing xx
Thursday, 18 December 2014
Friends don't have to agree to be there for you!
So I have this Friend, she often comes to me with a problem, I often don't agree with the problem, but I always listen to it and try to reach a solution for her. The fact that I don't see the problem as a problem doesn't mean it's not a problem for her. So I would say my job as a friend is to listen to her and be there for her as long as she needs. Would you agree?
Many times you won't like the decision your friend makes, mostly boy related or they will tell you something that bothers them and in your mind you will be like, this isn't really a problem to be honest just get over it. But you can't forget that everyone is different and just because you wouldn't see that as a big deal if it was you doesn't mean they're not allowed to see it as a big deal. They're not you, things that may not hurt you can hurt then and it's not your call to decide what is important or not.
As a friend you should listen to them, say what you can to make them feel better and if you have nothing to say, a collection of hmms,grunts and I feel you girl should suffice. Under no circumstances must you say:
Just get over it already. It's not that deep.
Get over them.
Anyways....(Then change the subject) this one is particularly not alright
You get the gist. You don't have to agree or even understand where your friend is coming from. But you do have to be there for them. Otherwise what's the difference between you and a stranger?
Do you agree? Comment below and don't forget to subscribe
Many times you won't like the decision your friend makes, mostly boy related or they will tell you something that bothers them and in your mind you will be like, this isn't really a problem to be honest just get over it. But you can't forget that everyone is different and just because you wouldn't see that as a big deal if it was you doesn't mean they're not allowed to see it as a big deal. They're not you, things that may not hurt you can hurt then and it's not your call to decide what is important or not.
As a friend you should listen to them, say what you can to make them feel better and if you have nothing to say, a collection of hmms,grunts and I feel you girl should suffice. Under no circumstances must you say:
Just get over it already. It's not that deep.
Get over them.
Anyways....(Then change the subject) this one is particularly not alright
You get the gist. You don't have to agree or even understand where your friend is coming from. But you do have to be there for them. Otherwise what's the difference between you and a stranger?
Do you agree? Comment below and don't forget to subscribe
Friday, 21 November 2014
Actions speak louder than words: Consistency
Hey Guys,
I've been meaning to write for so long because sooo much drama has been going on with my life but I just haven't been able to. At some point, I will update you but in the mean time there is a topic that has been reoccurring in my life and I wanted to share it with you guys. Firstly here is a quote:
'He may love you. He probably does. He probably thinks about you all the time. But that isn't what matters. What matters is what he is doing about it, and what he's doing about it is nothing. And if he is doing nothing, you most certainly shouldn't do anything. You need someone who goes out of their way to make it obvious that they want you in their life.'
Yes, this is very specific to relationships but the message behind this is clear; pay attention to what people do, not what they say. In my all my years on earth, in my dealings with boys, friends and the human race in general, the one thing I have noticed is that what people say and what people actually do can sometimes be WORLD apart.
The phrase 'easier said than done' springs to mind. It's an easy thing to say something, to make declarations, tell someone you like them, tell someone you'll help them out with something, actually going through with it on the other hand requires sacrifice and effort, many things a lot of people just aren't willing to give.
The point of this post? It's not just enough to rely and take at face value what someone says, most likely than not, it is an expression of what they want to say/be not necessarily who they are, watch their actions and make your decisions based on that.
At the same time make sure what you say and what you do align. Be a woman/man of your world. There's no need to go through life sending mixed messages and proclaiming things that are just not true or your true intentions. It messes people up and paints a negative image of you.
I know sometimes it's hard because you assume that
just because you mean everything you say other people do to but that's just not the case. Don't forget to Guard your heart!!
I've been meaning to write for so long because sooo much drama has been going on with my life but I just haven't been able to. At some point, I will update you but in the mean time there is a topic that has been reoccurring in my life and I wanted to share it with you guys. Firstly here is a quote:'He may love you. He probably does. He probably thinks about you all the time. But that isn't what matters. What matters is what he is doing about it, and what he's doing about it is nothing. And if he is doing nothing, you most certainly shouldn't do anything. You need someone who goes out of their way to make it obvious that they want you in their life.'
Yes, this is very specific to relationships but the message behind this is clear; pay attention to what people do, not what they say. In my all my years on earth, in my dealings with boys, friends and the human race in general, the one thing I have noticed is that what people say and what people actually do can sometimes be WORLD apart.
The phrase 'easier said than done' springs to mind. It's an easy thing to say something, to make declarations, tell someone you like them, tell someone you'll help them out with something, actually going through with it on the other hand requires sacrifice and effort, many things a lot of people just aren't willing to give.
The point of this post? It's not just enough to rely and take at face value what someone says, most likely than not, it is an expression of what they want to say/be not necessarily who they are, watch their actions and make your decisions based on that.
At the same time make sure what you say and what you do align. Be a woman/man of your world. There's no need to go through life sending mixed messages and proclaiming things that are just not true or your true intentions. It messes people up and paints a negative image of you.
I know sometimes it's hard because you assume that
just because you mean everything you say other people do to but that's just not the case. Don't forget to Guard your heart!!
Tuesday, 28 October 2014
5 Things Life at Uni has taught me!
Hey Guys,
In case you weren't aware I'm a current Law student and I am in my second year. I have gone through fresher's week, first year, faux freshers week (when 2nd years pretend they're freshers to get free stuff but shh) and I'm going through probably the hardest education period of my life. Nevertheless Uni has been very very interesting and this is 5 things that life at university so far as taught me.
1. You will miss your parents like crazy!
I really don't know how to make you understand how much you will miss home! During the first few weeks when you're having the time of your life (or throwing up your internal organs depending on how you get down) you'll love the freedom and vow to never go home again. But as you start to settle in you realise there's no mum to cook for you, no one to help you out. No family that you're used to and it starts to dawn on you that you are living with virtual strangers.
Me and my mum weren't that close before I came to uni but 2 years in I literally have no qualms about saying I see her as my best friend. In first year we spoke on the phone almost every day. She was giving me advice about Friends, laughing at me when my jollof rice flopped (this happened a couple times) and just generally being a listening ear. Even my brother the big tough lad admitted that he missed home and wished he could stay longer when he came back for the weekend.
2. Learn to hide your food!!!!!
Why? you may ask...because there will always be a rat like person living with or somewhere near you. My thief story is a funny one because not only was our food going missing every night, (crumble, bottles of wine, eggs, MILKY BARS (MY milky bars ill have you know, and you know how much i love my chocolate) but the perpetrator was our next door neighbours who had been using the adjoining fire escape to break into our flat every night. Needless to say we didn't know this and blamed a fellow housemate who then stopped talking to us for the rest of the year and eventually moved out. (I don't blame her)
Be creative in hiding your stuff, if it doesn't need to be in the fridge I#d say you should put it in your room. People get hungry and when lazy ass people see free food, they wont be afraid to help themselves.
3. University is NOT easy!
You're probably thinking well of course! But hold on let me explain, before coming to Uni, all everyone said was Uni is easy! It's easier than A levels blah blah, yeah all that rubbish is WRONG! Uni is soooo hard and if you don't put 110% in you will fail and it will not be funny because your resits are capped at 40%. So don't come with the mentality that you can chill. I mean you can but you would be chilling with a fail so...
4. You will not find your husband or even a serious relationship at Uni!
If you're reading this and you're in a serious relationship at uni then lol, Just ignore this post but I know a lot of girls come to uni with the mentality of oh yes this is my chance to be in a serious relationship. Me and my boothang will be chilling, watching movies, I'll be cooking for him! LIES! upon arriving at Uni, you will realise Guys don't want to settle down. They wanna watching movies, but with as many girls as possible and 'watching movies' doesn't mean watching movies. You'd be wrong if you went to a boys house expecting to watch movies, It means a WHOOOOLE other thing. I won't get into that here. On the other hand if you go for much older men or post grads you may have a slight chance of relationship status,
5. You will find human beings without the ability to feed themselves.
Yes somehow there are a loooooot of individuals who are unprepared for the real world. They cannot cook! Common cooking to feed themselves they are unable to do. Hence the race begins to get as many girls to cook for them as possible! watch out! Don't be one of the many chefs who are trekking to asda to come and cook for a guy who's thinking about what the next girl will cook him tomorrow, Be wise and stingy with your food!!!
What did you learn at Uni?? Drop a comment, and don't forget to subscribe and share!!
In case you weren't aware I'm a current Law student and I am in my second year. I have gone through fresher's week, first year, faux freshers week (when 2nd years pretend they're freshers to get free stuff but shh) and I'm going through probably the hardest education period of my life. Nevertheless Uni has been very very interesting and this is 5 things that life at university so far as taught me.
1. You will miss your parents like crazy!
I really don't know how to make you understand how much you will miss home! During the first few weeks when you're having the time of your life (or throwing up your internal organs depending on how you get down) you'll love the freedom and vow to never go home again. But as you start to settle in you realise there's no mum to cook for you, no one to help you out. No family that you're used to and it starts to dawn on you that you are living with virtual strangers.
Me and my mum weren't that close before I came to uni but 2 years in I literally have no qualms about saying I see her as my best friend. In first year we spoke on the phone almost every day. She was giving me advice about Friends, laughing at me when my jollof rice flopped (this happened a couple times) and just generally being a listening ear. Even my brother the big tough lad admitted that he missed home and wished he could stay longer when he came back for the weekend.
2. Learn to hide your food!!!!!
Be creative in hiding your stuff, if it doesn't need to be in the fridge I#d say you should put it in your room. People get hungry and when lazy ass people see free food, they wont be afraid to help themselves.
3. University is NOT easy!
You're probably thinking well of course! But hold on let me explain, before coming to Uni, all everyone said was Uni is easy! It's easier than A levels blah blah, yeah all that rubbish is WRONG! Uni is soooo hard and if you don't put 110% in you will fail and it will not be funny because your resits are capped at 40%. So don't come with the mentality that you can chill. I mean you can but you would be chilling with a fail so...4. You will not find your husband or even a serious relationship at Uni!
If you're reading this and you're in a serious relationship at uni then lol, Just ignore this post but I know a lot of girls come to uni with the mentality of oh yes this is my chance to be in a serious relationship. Me and my boothang will be chilling, watching movies, I'll be cooking for him! LIES! upon arriving at Uni, you will realise Guys don't want to settle down. They wanna watching movies, but with as many girls as possible and 'watching movies' doesn't mean watching movies. You'd be wrong if you went to a boys house expecting to watch movies, It means a WHOOOOLE other thing. I won't get into that here. On the other hand if you go for much older men or post grads you may have a slight chance of relationship status,
5. You will find human beings without the ability to feed themselves.
Yes somehow there are a loooooot of individuals who are unprepared for the real world. They cannot cook! Common cooking to feed themselves they are unable to do. Hence the race begins to get as many girls to cook for them as possible! watch out! Don't be one of the many chefs who are trekking to asda to come and cook for a guy who's thinking about what the next girl will cook him tomorrow, Be wise and stingy with your food!!!
What did you learn at Uni?? Drop a comment, and don't forget to subscribe and share!!
Monday, 20 October 2014
Weight Loss journey!
Hey Guys!
So I just finished an intense work out session with my flatmate and I am feeling soooo good! Never realised how good exercise actually makes you feel. When you're doing it, it feels like the world would end anytime soon, but as soon as you're done,you just feel happy that you're healthier and proud of yourself that you've achieved so much.
I've been meaning to get right for a while in terms of my health and fitness but I've just been too lazy so when my flatmate burst in and announced she wanted to get fit in 6 weeks, I thought why not, let me use this opportunity. Now I have the type of body that unless you look closely, it looks on point, behind closed doors, only I know what's really going on but by embarking on this journey I'm hoping to make my body look good in public and in private.
Of course this means fixing my diet as well! For those who know me they know I am literally the queen of chocolate, like I consume immense amounts of chocolate in one sitting and by one sitting I mean several large packets a day, but today I was able to control myself and didn't buy a single chocolate(boy the struggle was real, trust me!!) but it made me feel proud of myself. (I ended up buying do-nuts to substitute the sugar rush but shhh no one needs to know that.)
So basically this post is to make sure I'm accountable to someone and hopefully guilt trip me into sticking to this journey. If I give up after a few days I may just delete this post and pretend this never happened lol. Feel free to start the journey with me and I hope to be posting pictures, recipes, and progress throughout the phase.
In the meantime, here are some links to some of my favourite work out videos:
1. Tae Bo is actually amazing, like seriously, this guy does not play about. He throws you in the deep end and expects you to swim!! Fast!! But if you're resilient you will love the results.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FVwv0bUEJpE
2. Only just came across this today and I am soo in love with it. It's a 2 part dance routine. One african themed and one carribean themed. I found myself sweating by the bucket but yet having fun. I definitely reccomend this if you are a beginner and if you're a good dancer you will love it even more.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pq7IDD0Ye1Y
3. Everybody loves some Zumba!! This put a smile on my face and got me me working up a sweat.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h-RMdXvs6bM
So I just finished an intense work out session with my flatmate and I am feeling soooo good! Never realised how good exercise actually makes you feel. When you're doing it, it feels like the world would end anytime soon, but as soon as you're done,you just feel happy that you're healthier and proud of yourself that you've achieved so much.
I've been meaning to get right for a while in terms of my health and fitness but I've just been too lazy so when my flatmate burst in and announced she wanted to get fit in 6 weeks, I thought why not, let me use this opportunity. Now I have the type of body that unless you look closely, it looks on point, behind closed doors, only I know what's really going on but by embarking on this journey I'm hoping to make my body look good in public and in private.
Of course this means fixing my diet as well! For those who know me they know I am literally the queen of chocolate, like I consume immense amounts of chocolate in one sitting and by one sitting I mean several large packets a day, but today I was able to control myself and didn't buy a single chocolate(boy the struggle was real, trust me!!) but it made me feel proud of myself. (I ended up buying do-nuts to substitute the sugar rush but shhh no one needs to know that.)
So basically this post is to make sure I'm accountable to someone and hopefully guilt trip me into sticking to this journey. If I give up after a few days I may just delete this post and pretend this never happened lol. Feel free to start the journey with me and I hope to be posting pictures, recipes, and progress throughout the phase.
In the meantime, here are some links to some of my favourite work out videos:
1. Tae Bo is actually amazing, like seriously, this guy does not play about. He throws you in the deep end and expects you to swim!! Fast!! But if you're resilient you will love the results.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FVwv0bUEJpE
2. Only just came across this today and I am soo in love with it. It's a 2 part dance routine. One african themed and one carribean themed. I found myself sweating by the bucket but yet having fun. I definitely reccomend this if you are a beginner and if you're a good dancer you will love it even more.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pq7IDD0Ye1Y
3. Everybody loves some Zumba!! This put a smile on my face and got me me working up a sweat.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h-RMdXvs6bM
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