You Will Change! #LifeLesson6

Almost a year ago I started the life lesson series on this blog and promised to give you guys 7 life lessons but as I wrote more and more life lessons, I loved the series and decided to make it a permanent feature on the channel. As life would have it, I haven't done a life lesson in almost 9 months but today I have a short and quick life lesson for you.

The life lesson is that you will change. You will grow. You will develop. You will do things you swore you would never do,change your mindset, give up things you treasure, let people go that you cherish. You will change and that is absolutely definitely positively okay. You are human and the way that we think and reason constantly changes! You do not owe anyone your stagnancy. Anyone who can't get on board with the fact that you've upgraded your thinking or your mindset needs to hit the exit sign real quick.

People like to throw the phrase 'you've changed' in a bid to hamper your self esteem and keep you shackled to their stagnant regressive mentality and it's up to you to resist that. Life happens to the best of us and along with it comes change, growth and self development. Yes you have changed over the years and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Embrace your journey, its yours and no one elses.

Feel free to check out the other LifeLessons:
LifeLesson1: Click Here!
LifeLesson2: Click Here!
LifeLesson3: Click Here!
LifeLesson4: Click Here!
LifeLesson5: Click Here!

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5 University/College Myths Debunked!

Hey Guys,

As you should know I am a recent Law graduate (Glory be to God) and I have a lot of knowledge to share about the rollercoaster that is University so get ready to see a few posts about that. In this post, I'm just going to be sharing with you a few myths that have always surrounded university and whether or not they turned out to be true.

1. You will find your husband/wife in University.
This is by far the biggest myth propagated about life at University. Whilst there is ample chance to meet lots of men and women in university, the chances of them being your happily ever after are very slim. This is because what noone tells you about the people at uni is that after having a somewhat restricted dating life, they are coming to university with the intention to have fun and take complete advantage of their freedom hence getting 'wifed' up is the least of their worries.
Some people do meet their life long partners at uni even if they don't know it at the time but sadly that is not the case for the majority of people so just be very aware of that.

2. First year doesn't count.
Another silly myth that is spread ever so enthusiastically. This is a dangerous myth because it suggests that you can slack off and do whatever you want in your first year and you will still be okay  and sadly this is just not true. First of all, first year actually does count for some people (yes they are unlucky i know). Secondly if you do not pass first year, honey you will find yourself out on your a** and not in second year. It's a low threshold to pass admittedly but you certainly still have to pass. And thirdly, applying for placements, work experience, graduate jobs all require you to state your first year grades and are often based off how well you did. So if you're ever tempted to sack off a lecture because 'first year doesn't count', think again because it really really really does.

3. You have to live on campus to make friends.
Living on Campus will put you in the same vicinity as a lot of other students but it is not the foolproof formula for making friends. Take it from me, I lived in halls for the whole first year and left with 2 real friends I kept in contact with (cause they were my flatmates) and a handful of people I smiled to if I saw out and about (and some that I promptly avoided). There will be plenty of chances to make friends in University, (trust me), whether or not you live on campus is not the determining factor for how many friends you will have. The closest people to me during my university days were not friends I made in halls, there were friends I made by chance so chill.


4. A  levels is harder than University.
This is probably the worst of all the myths. The most infuriating and the one that in retrospect I should have put first in the list. I remember someone telling me in A levels the only reason we pay for Uni and not A-levels is the degree and that University is a lot easier than A levels. (I wish I still spoke to them to find out how true they found this.) This is by far the biggest load of crap I have ever heard. I won't even justify it with an explanation. There is a reason why they call it 'reading for a degree' and not 'reading for a A-level'. University is hard! And it is most definitely harder than A levels.

5. Freshers week is the best week of your life.
Hold it right there! Whoever propagated this myth needs to have several seats. Whilst some people will have a whale of a time in freshers week (I will admit that much), the claim that it will be the best week of your life is a grave overstatement. After preparing myself and telling myself I was going to go all out for freshers week, I was sorely and immensely disappointed. Apart from the lack of great places to go to my taste (maybe I just wasn't familiar with the good places yet), the week just fell limp and very underwhelming. Best week of my life? Most definitely not good sir. Not even Average week of my life.

I could go on and on and on about the many myths I heard prior to going to University that were just not true but I shall call it a night at this point. (It's 2am so Literally call it a night) and let you figure out the other myths for yourself.

Despite all the dreams you may have been sold about university, what I will say is that it is a heck of a place and definitely a life changing experience, (a bit much I know but humor
 me). More than anything else, just prepare for the worst, hope for the best and enjoy your time at Uni, there will be lots and lots of fun times but inevitably lots of lows so don't let it get you down.

Feel free to follow my Youtube Channel where I will be doing a University Series here!
I know this blog was very very long but thank you for bearing with me and I will see you later.
Blessing xoxox

How To Get What You Want From People!

Hey Guys!

I'm back again! I told you I would see you in two weeks and here I am! I'm loving the consistency!
Today is not a long post at all! I just wanted to share a life lesson with you that has really manifested for me over the past few months. I'm a person who doesn't gel well with rejection if I'm honest. I don't particularly like it nor do I take well to other people saying no to me and because of this, I've found myself just not asking.

And whilst this seems to be a sure fire way to avoid rejection, it also means that you miss out a lot on life and what it has to offer. So many times we are too scared to ask people for things when really all we had to do is ask and we would have received. The way to get what you want from people is to ASK! Trust me it seems very silly to point that out but we tend to assume the worst in people or sometimes underestimate ourselves and in the process miss out on so many things.

I'll use myself as an example, I have a YouTube channel which you can check out here! (I know shameless self promo) and I am not a big channel by any means, I'm a little way from 600 subscribers and I wanted to do both a summer lookbook and a tasting video (both of which I will link down below of course) but as I was a small channel I doubted that any company would want to send me anything when there were Youtubers with 100 0000s of subscribers but with encouragement from my friends, I thought why not and emailed two companies, telling them about my channel and what I would like to do and how I would like to work with them and to my surprise, both companies were willing to work with me. And they genuinely sounded excited to be a part of my channel and sent me items for free to feature.

I could not believe that these established companies would even want to work with a small time YouTube like me or how easy it would be but alas it was! All i had to do was ask and it happened.

So here I am challenging you guys to be more open and just ask for what you want. You would be surprised how many people are more open than you suppose.

I will see you guys in two weeks time! Lots and lots of love. And if you want to catch up with me in the interim, you can follow me on my social media.

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You're Not Responsible For Other People!

Hey Guys,

I know what you're going to say, where the hell have i been? That's a good question but we don't have time to get into it on this post! I also have a stir fry recipe coming up for you but in the meantime, i wanted to come and quickly talk about what's been on my mind for a while.

Lately I've found myself being super concerned with other people and the choices they make with their lives. If someone claims they're a christian but their actions and words don't really display such i get super concerned and start trying to figure out why, or if someone does or believes something that i absolutely strongly disagree with, i ponder about it for a long time wondering why? But I recently realized that It's none of my damn business! People are free to think and do whatever the hell they please, it has nothing to do with me. Part of the fact that we're individuals is that we can think the way we want and do what we want. We may not necessarily agree with someone's choice or think they're doing something good, but we're not responsible for them. Its not our job to police other people and their actions. Do you and what you think is right and let others do what they think is right.

We don't have to get all up in arms about other people's chocies and way of thinking. In the end, time will reveal all. In as much as we may want the best for our friends and the people around us, we're not responsible for them.

I don't know if you completely understand my point in this post cause it's something I'm struggling with myself but comment down below if you do! And i will see you guys hopefully soon!

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Love you xx

Go Hard For Yourself!

Hey Guys!
It's been the longest time ever and I apologize for that..there is no genuine excuse but I've been putting so much energy into my YouTube channel that the blog has taken a back seat but hopefully I'll be able to find a balance this year and should be able to get a blog out once every 2 weeks.

If you follow me on social media, you would've seen my posts about going hard for yourself this year and this is what this post will be about.

GO HARD FOR YOURSELF
EXPECT NO HANDOUTS
PROMOTE YOURSELF LIKE CRAZY
PUT YOURSELF IN THE DRIVING SEAT OF YOUR LIFE

These are the 4 key principles I plan to follow this year because what i realized especially in the latter part of last year is that the minute you take control of your destiny and start pushing yourself towards your success. That is the minute you become successful. There's no need depending on others and waiting on them to help you out, go out there and help yourself out! Nobody has time to go hard for you because they're too busy going hard for themselves. Nobody has time to promote you and take you where you need to be cause they're too busy driving themselves. Sure they can give you a hand every now and then but the bottom line is nobody knows what you want like you do and that ultimately means nobody knows best how to get it like YOU.

3 Lessons

1. Don't be afraid to promote yourself every chance you get! There's no use doing this great thing if nobody knows about it. The only way they are going to know about it is if you tell them. If there is an opportunity to promote your business, brand, idea or channel..TAKE IT!

2. If noone is willing to go with you? GO ON YOUR OWN! Sorry for the excessive use of capitals, I'm getting too passionate. But don't be reliant on other people to get you where you want to go. I've wanted to write a script for a long time but because everyone i partner with doesn't want it as much as me, i keep putting it off but that's to my own detriment. If I can't find someone to commit, why don't I commit myself?

3. Challenges are okay! Will you always succeed or become successful right away? You already know the answer is no so why get discouraged when you face a challenge. So what if the growth is small? At least you're still growing! If you only get one subscriber to your channel a day, at the end of the year you would have 366! If you're not stagnant then that means your moving and if you're moving then you will eventually get there.

Thank you guys so much for sticking around. Feel free to go over to my channel and see the 10 lessons I learnt in 2015. Just click Here!

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It's Okay To Fall Down #LifeLesson3

Hey Guys,

A good friend took me ice skating for the first time yesterday and I genuinely had an amazing time. I spent the 1st hour clinging desperately to the side of the rink but in the last 10 minutes I was skating completely unaided but still close to the side of course. Did I fall smack on my bum/face/hands/everywhere a couple of times? Yes! I did and a couple of little kids laughed at me. I don't blame them, I laughed at myself too. Did I keep bumping into people and getting evils from parents? Yes that also happened a few times more than I would have liked.

But the point is that I didn't really start to make progress until I became unafraid of falling. When falling no longer seemed that big a deal, I became more confident and took more risks. Which in turn gave me a greater chance of learning to skatw. The risk of falling is in every thing you do in life. If you try anything worth doing you stand the chance of failing at it. You might not like it but the quicker you accept it, the better  for you.

It's not whether you fall or not, because most likely the chances are you will, you can't help that. What you can help is whether you get back up and try again or give up and sit on the sidelines and watch other people achieve it. Did I feel embarrassed at having a large group of people see me Hi-5 the ice a few times? You already know the answer. But the embarrassment quickly dissipated when I learnt to laugh at myself and realised actually it's OKAY to fall down. It just means I'm getting closer to the goal.

Don't let your pride be the reason why you don't achieve. Fall down as many times as you need to just make sure you get back up!

Bee
xx

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Don't take it for granted! #LifeLesson2

Hey Guys,

Yes I know, I promised it would be a 7 day special then disappeared on the 1st day! Shame on me! Maybe it won't be everyday but I will definitely get to the 7 lessons lol. On that topic, if you haven't seen topic number one, you can check it out Here:

Today's lesson is about not taking things for granted. There are things that occur everyday that we take for granted because we don't work for it or do anything to bring it about. For example breathing, getting out of bed in the morning, sleeping etc. These are things we put no effort into doing yet achieve effortlessly. Consequently we end up taking these things for granted.  STOP!

When you find out you can no longer do these things is when you start to appreciate it and at this point it's too late. Recently I've been suffering a bout of insomnia and have not been able to sleep for God knows how long. I just stay awake thinking of the days when I would plop my head on the pillow and I'm gone. Take my word for it, you never know what you have until it's gone that's a fact.

So whether it be people, jobs, relationships, food or the basic things in life  you have come to expect, take time out to appreciate what you have because you never know when you just might lose it.

Bee
xx

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Let Them Go! #LifeLesson1

Hey Guys!

It has been the longest time, I'm going to try and post a short excerpt everyday for the next week so a #7day Life Lessons kinda situation. Partly to make up for being away for so long and partly to get me back into the spirit of Blogging!

Let them Go!

Today's post is going to be really short and it's just to encourage you guys. When it comes  to relationships, friendships, partnerships, any kind of ships or boats (see what I did there), if the other party in the ship decides to leave. Let them go! You do not need to fight, struggle, beg, plead or persuade anybody to remain in your life. There is no need. I know you've heard it before but your destiny is not tied to anybody who decides to leave you. If a friend stops putting in effort to the relationship and you try to get it back and it doesn't work? Leave them. If a guy/girl your involves with suddenly decides you're not the one any more? Asta La vista.

Should you fight for what you want/love/believe in? Absolutely! But even the greatest fights only have 12 rounds. There comes a point where your fighting isn't doing anybody any good, most especially not you. That whole let them go and if they come back to you they're yours thing really applies here. Maybe they'll come back, maybe they won't and truly letting someone go means accepting the possibility that they won't and that's alright too. Situations like that tend to work out for the best. Yes you lost them, but most times you tend to get better.

So that's pretty much it! I told you I would keep it short! By God's grace, lesson number 2 will be up tomorrow. In the mean time feel free to check out my Youtube channel, which is where all my energy and time has been going into!
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC9JtJa-GnrWhB58Kbhbe3g

Bee
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