You Will Change! #LifeLesson6

Almost a year ago I started the life lesson series on this blog and promised to give you guys 7 life lessons but as I wrote more and more life lessons, I loved the series and decided to make it a permanent feature on the channel. As life would have it, I haven't done a life lesson in almost 9 months but today I have a short and quick life lesson for you.

The life lesson is that you will change. You will grow. You will develop. You will do things you swore you would never do,change your mindset, give up things you treasure, let people go that you cherish. You will change and that is absolutely definitely positively okay. You are human and the way that we think and reason constantly changes! You do not owe anyone your stagnancy. Anyone who can't get on board with the fact that you've upgraded your thinking or your mindset needs to hit the exit sign real quick.

People like to throw the phrase 'you've changed' in a bid to hamper your self esteem and keep you shackled to their stagnant regressive mentality and it's up to you to resist that. Life happens to the best of us and along with it comes change, growth and self development. Yes you have changed over the years and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Embrace your journey, its yours and no one elses.

Feel free to check out the other LifeLessons:
LifeLesson1: Click Here!
LifeLesson2: Click Here!
LifeLesson3: Click Here!
LifeLesson4: Click Here!
LifeLesson5: Click Here!

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Why Men Lie!

Exactly one year ago, the first guy I met at university told me he didn't mean everything he had ever said to me and that he wanted to be with the girl he cheated on me with.

About an hour ago the most recent guy I met at university told me he never meant anything he ever said to me and that he had more feelings for the girl he cheated on with me.

Funnily enough, the content of their lies were quite similar, the usual bs about wanting to make me their wife, having found a respectable girl to take home, yardie yardie ya. A bunch of lies that when push came to shove, they were quick to denounce.

So my question is why did they feel the need to lie in the first place. What possesses them to think telling a lie will work out in the long run better than telling the truth. You know what I believe? You are never wrong for wanting what you want. These guys wanted to be players, they wanted to play the field, they didn't want to be tied down to one girl and if that is genuinely what they want, no one can judge them for it. What is wrong is not giving someone to choose to be a part of that.

If you want to have 3 girls on the go, by all means do that. If you want to have a friend with benefit, by all means do that. Just don't take away my choice to decide if I want to be a part of that or not by lying to me. Neither of these guys told me the truth, and what hurt the most in both situations is not that they didn't really want to be with me but that they lied to me, told me they saw a future with me. Watched me fall for them and let down my guard only to turn around and be like....I didn't mean what I said. The last guy was particularly beastly....He even told me there was no reason for lying to me, he just did it. If that's not the devil himself speaking I don't know what is.

In conclusion, I know the title suggests I have a reason for why men lie but the truth is I have no idea. The only sort of conclusion I can come to is that men don't lie. Boys do! It's only boys that try and manipulate the situation to get their way. Men don't have to lie because they generally know what they want and go after it. 

I would never judge you for wanting what you want. But when you rob me off the choice to decide if I want to be a part of it..then that's when I get mad.

Remember to guard your heart guys.

PS: This experience made me so much stronger though and I definitely learnt ALOT! So I guess it wasn't all negative.

Believe people when they show you who they are!

Hey guys!

It's been 2 years since I first created this blog and wrote a post. But rather than start a fresh blog, something told me to stick with this one, for some reason I guess Writer's Bloc just pretty much covers everything for me. So 2 years on, I'm back in the 'blogging game' and  I have a lot to blog about, only difference is now I'm more grown up (literally and otherwise). I have my opinions now and I know why I have them! My writing style is quite quirky so sometimes you'll read something and be like whaaaaaat? But don't worry that's just me, oh also sometimes my African side comes out, again that's just me writing how I would speak. So make sure you follow, share and keep checking the blog! Also feel free to comment and leave your opinions and suggestions.

Without further ado; let's talk about human beings. Now this will mainly talk to the females although it may be true for some guys but for some reason, from what I've seen, guys tend to get the message a lot faster than women. For a guy, if someone acts some type of way towards them, they tend to get the message pretty quick and get to stepping, but women....
We women like to make up excuses for people; 
'he wasn't himself' 
'he wouldn't have said that if....' 
'He's not usually like that'
 'I probably provoked him..'
 'If I hadn't said that.'

People are adults and as such they choose to do what they do. Irrespective of what you said, the time of day or even what they had for lunch, they won't do or say something that is not within their capability. If they said they said they wanted to get with your friend after kissing you (first of all, GIRL YOU NEED TO RUN NOW! That is not okay) then don't say he was only joking and keep talking to him. Talk to your two feet and keep it moving. Its not a joke if you're not laughing, and me and you both know you're not laughing at that comment.

The point of this is when someone starts to show you bits of themselves, even if its not consistent with who you thought the person is or what you would like them to be, it is them categorically testing you to see how much Iranu (Nonsense) you will take, show them you're not an idiot and DROP them like they're hot. When you stick around making excuses and lying to yourself is when you make them think it's okay to treat you like rubbish and oh boy trust me they will. (This is topic for another post,)

It may seem like I'm talking only to the ladies but this is for everyone in general. If a girl keeps making comments, listen to what she's saying. The quote 'there's no smoke without fire' is there for a reason! These thoughts don't randomly pop into anyone's head. Its coming from a place within them. They are giving you a private screening of what is going on in their head, some pretending its a film and start realising this is reality. If someone is joking about not wanting to be with you, using you or disrespecting you, they are stylishly telling you that they don't want to be with you, they want to use you or plan to disrespect you. My dear, it really is that simple. 


Don't wait till the 50th time to realise someone is a dirty rassclart pigeon when they've been showing you from day one that they were never serious.

GUYS, GUARD YOUR HEART ! Believe people when they show  you who they really are!
Love you guys x