How To Get What You Want From People!

Hey Guys!

I'm back again! I told you I would see you in two weeks and here I am! I'm loving the consistency!
Today is not a long post at all! I just wanted to share a life lesson with you that has really manifested for me over the past few months. I'm a person who doesn't gel well with rejection if I'm honest. I don't particularly like it nor do I take well to other people saying no to me and because of this, I've found myself just not asking.

And whilst this seems to be a sure fire way to avoid rejection, it also means that you miss out a lot on life and what it has to offer. So many times we are too scared to ask people for things when really all we had to do is ask and we would have received. The way to get what you want from people is to ASK! Trust me it seems very silly to point that out but we tend to assume the worst in people or sometimes underestimate ourselves and in the process miss out on so many things.

I'll use myself as an example, I have a YouTube channel which you can check out here! (I know shameless self promo) and I am not a big channel by any means, I'm a little way from 600 subscribers and I wanted to do both a summer lookbook and a tasting video (both of which I will link down below of course) but as I was a small channel I doubted that any company would want to send me anything when there were Youtubers with 100 0000s of subscribers but with encouragement from my friends, I thought why not and emailed two companies, telling them about my channel and what I would like to do and how I would like to work with them and to my surprise, both companies were willing to work with me. And they genuinely sounded excited to be a part of my channel and sent me items for free to feature.

I could not believe that these established companies would even want to work with a small time YouTube like me or how easy it would be but alas it was! All i had to do was ask and it happened.

So here I am challenging you guys to be more open and just ask for what you want. You would be surprised how many people are more open than you suppose.

I will see you guys in two weeks time! Lots and lots of love. And if you want to catch up with me in the interim, you can follow me on my social media.

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Check out the Spanish Snacks tasting Video here!
Check out the summer lookbook Video here!

Go Hard For Yourself!

Hey Guys!
It's been the longest time ever and I apologize for that..there is no genuine excuse but I've been putting so much energy into my YouTube channel that the blog has taken a back seat but hopefully I'll be able to find a balance this year and should be able to get a blog out once every 2 weeks.

If you follow me on social media, you would've seen my posts about going hard for yourself this year and this is what this post will be about.

GO HARD FOR YOURSELF
EXPECT NO HANDOUTS
PROMOTE YOURSELF LIKE CRAZY
PUT YOURSELF IN THE DRIVING SEAT OF YOUR LIFE

These are the 4 key principles I plan to follow this year because what i realized especially in the latter part of last year is that the minute you take control of your destiny and start pushing yourself towards your success. That is the minute you become successful. There's no need depending on others and waiting on them to help you out, go out there and help yourself out! Nobody has time to go hard for you because they're too busy going hard for themselves. Nobody has time to promote you and take you where you need to be cause they're too busy driving themselves. Sure they can give you a hand every now and then but the bottom line is nobody knows what you want like you do and that ultimately means nobody knows best how to get it like YOU.

3 Lessons

1. Don't be afraid to promote yourself every chance you get! There's no use doing this great thing if nobody knows about it. The only way they are going to know about it is if you tell them. If there is an opportunity to promote your business, brand, idea or channel..TAKE IT!

2. If noone is willing to go with you? GO ON YOUR OWN! Sorry for the excessive use of capitals, I'm getting too passionate. But don't be reliant on other people to get you where you want to go. I've wanted to write a script for a long time but because everyone i partner with doesn't want it as much as me, i keep putting it off but that's to my own detriment. If I can't find someone to commit, why don't I commit myself?

3. Challenges are okay! Will you always succeed or become successful right away? You already know the answer is no so why get discouraged when you face a challenge. So what if the growth is small? At least you're still growing! If you only get one subscriber to your channel a day, at the end of the year you would have 366! If you're not stagnant then that means your moving and if you're moving then you will eventually get there.

Thank you guys so much for sticking around. Feel free to go over to my channel and see the 10 lessons I learnt in 2015. Just click Here!

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Face Your Demons Head On! #LifeLesson5

Hey Guys,

Hope your all doing well, if you follow me on YouTube you'll know a lot of my efforts have been directed there recently, and if you don't, you can check out my channel here! But don't worry I'm still very much on the Lifelessons! So without further ado let's explore what number 5 is:

Face Your Demons head on!
What I've come to realize in life is that there are two ways to deal with any problem you may have. The first is to hide from it, put it away from you and hope that it goes away and the second is to face it head on, take the pain that flows from it and defeat it. Both ways may work don't get me wrong, if you ignore something long enough, you may eventually develop a resilience to it. But is it really defeated?

What may at first appear as if you have overcome something merely because you have put it out of your mind may actually be that you have just masked it. Effectively you paused the feelings, the emotions, the breakdowns it causes rather than stop it. The risk then is that when you're faced with this problem at a later date, all the turmoil and heartache it once caused may come flowing back, sometimes even worse than the first time and then you have to being the process all over again.

You could choose to handle situations that way or you can choose the slightly but more effective option which is to tackle them head on. If you choose to confront your demons and face them every day, yes it will hurt at first, yes it will break you at first but not for long because eventually it loses its power over you. It loses it's ability to offend, upset, and hurt you.

The reasons why seeing something again after a long time hurts so much is that the memories come back to haunt you full force, but if you have dealt with your emotions one by one and reasoned it away, it wouldn't hurt you so much.

I know the post is a little cryptic and may be a little hard to pinpoint but I hope some of you got something from it.

Feel free to check out the other LifeLessons:
LifeLesson1: Click Here!
LifeLesson2: Click Here!
LifeLesson3: Click Here!
LifeLesson4: Click Here!

It's Okay To Fall Down #LifeLesson3

Hey Guys,

A good friend took me ice skating for the first time yesterday and I genuinely had an amazing time. I spent the 1st hour clinging desperately to the side of the rink but in the last 10 minutes I was skating completely unaided but still close to the side of course. Did I fall smack on my bum/face/hands/everywhere a couple of times? Yes! I did and a couple of little kids laughed at me. I don't blame them, I laughed at myself too. Did I keep bumping into people and getting evils from parents? Yes that also happened a few times more than I would have liked.

But the point is that I didn't really start to make progress until I became unafraid of falling. When falling no longer seemed that big a deal, I became more confident and took more risks. Which in turn gave me a greater chance of learning to skatw. The risk of falling is in every thing you do in life. If you try anything worth doing you stand the chance of failing at it. You might not like it but the quicker you accept it, the better  for you.

It's not whether you fall or not, because most likely the chances are you will, you can't help that. What you can help is whether you get back up and try again or give up and sit on the sidelines and watch other people achieve it. Did I feel embarrassed at having a large group of people see me Hi-5 the ice a few times? You already know the answer. But the embarrassment quickly dissipated when I learnt to laugh at myself and realised actually it's OKAY to fall down. It just means I'm getting closer to the goal.

Don't let your pride be the reason why you don't achieve. Fall down as many times as you need to just make sure you get back up!

Bee
xx

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Don't take it for granted! #LifeLesson2

Hey Guys,

Yes I know, I promised it would be a 7 day special then disappeared on the 1st day! Shame on me! Maybe it won't be everyday but I will definitely get to the 7 lessons lol. On that topic, if you haven't seen topic number one, you can check it out Here:

Today's lesson is about not taking things for granted. There are things that occur everyday that we take for granted because we don't work for it or do anything to bring it about. For example breathing, getting out of bed in the morning, sleeping etc. These are things we put no effort into doing yet achieve effortlessly. Consequently we end up taking these things for granted.  STOP!

When you find out you can no longer do these things is when you start to appreciate it and at this point it's too late. Recently I've been suffering a bout of insomnia and have not been able to sleep for God knows how long. I just stay awake thinking of the days when I would plop my head on the pillow and I'm gone. Take my word for it, you never know what you have until it's gone that's a fact.

So whether it be people, jobs, relationships, food or the basic things in life  you have come to expect, take time out to appreciate what you have because you never know when you just might lose it.

Bee
xx

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Be Yourself! Learning to love who you are. (My Youtube channel)

Hey guys!
This is just a quick short post!

I recently got myself a good quality camera to be able to take good pictures for the blog and to better my youtube channel. I'm still learning but this is my first video. Make sure to check it out. Subscribe, like and comment.

Thanks for the support in advance. ;)