Hey Guys,
This is the fourth instalment in the #7Life Lessons posts I've been doing, but I'm actually enjoying this format so much, I'm thinking of just turning this blog into a LifeLessons forum lol. We'll see.
It's not that serious!
Do you find yourself sometime so deep in thought, so lost in a train of thought, that when you snap out of it, you're just like, why am I wasting time thinking about this, it's not even that serious? Yes? Well that's exactly what this post is about!
Too often in life, we waste time deliberating, weighing up, analysing, criticising, destructring, basically doing all sorts about situations which frankly don't need all of that. We dedicate so much time and mental energy to things that frankly won't matter in a few months, weeks or even days. We risk giving ourselves hypertension, depression and all other detrimental conditions by constantly dwelling on thoughts or situations that are just not that serious. Why?
I'm guilty of this myself. I'm the Analysation Queen (Nope, Analysation is not a word, Yep I'm going to use it anyway.) I can dissect the simplest thing someone says and end up getting a whole other conclusion from it. Generally I can go from point A to point Z in about 2.5 seconds and I just realised lately that it's not worth it. Half the time, I'm the only person thinking this deep and everyone else moved on a long time ago so really am I not just wasting my time?
Yes there are things you should give serious thought to, buying a house for example, picking your university degree, or other such things that change or impact your life greatly but as for the little things? Don't stress them. Consider your options, make up your mind and just do it. It really won't matter in few years time.
Check out the other LifeLessons so far:
LifeLesson1: Click Here!
LifeLesson2: Click Here!
LifeLesson3: Click Here!
Feel free to check out my Youtube Channel Here!
See you next time guys x
Monday, 14 September 2015
Sunday, 6 September 2015
It's Okay To Fall Down #LifeLesson3
Hey Guys,
A good friend took me ice skating for the first time yesterday and I genuinely had an amazing time. I spent the 1st hour clinging desperately to the side of the rink but in the last 10 minutes I was skating completely unaided but still close to the side of course. Did I fall smack on my bum/face/hands/everywhere a couple of times? Yes! I did and a couple of little kids laughed at me. I don't blame them, I laughed at myself too. Did I keep bumping into people and getting evils from parents? Yes that also happened a few times more than I would have liked.
But the point is that I didn't really start to make progress until I became unafraid of falling. When falling no longer seemed that big a deal, I became more confident and took more risks. Which in turn gave me a greater chance of learning to skatw. The risk of falling is in every thing you do in life. If you try anything worth doing you stand the chance of failing at it. You might not like it but the quicker you accept it, the better for you.
It's not whether you fall or not, because most likely the chances are you will, you can't help that. What you can help is whether you get back up and try again or give up and sit on the sidelines and watch other people achieve it. Did I feel embarrassed at having a large group of people see me Hi-5 the ice a few times? You already know the answer. But the embarrassment quickly dissipated when I learnt to laugh at myself and realised actually it's OKAY to fall down. It just means I'm getting closer to the goal.
Don't let your pride be the reason why you don't achieve. Fall down as many times as you need to just make sure you get back up!
Bee
xx
Check out Life lesson 1 here!
Check out Life lesson 2 here!
For my Vlogs and Videos- Check them out here!
A good friend took me ice skating for the first time yesterday and I genuinely had an amazing time. I spent the 1st hour clinging desperately to the side of the rink but in the last 10 minutes I was skating completely unaided but still close to the side of course. Did I fall smack on my bum/face/hands/everywhere a couple of times? Yes! I did and a couple of little kids laughed at me. I don't blame them, I laughed at myself too. Did I keep bumping into people and getting evils from parents? Yes that also happened a few times more than I would have liked.
But the point is that I didn't really start to make progress until I became unafraid of falling. When falling no longer seemed that big a deal, I became more confident and took more risks. Which in turn gave me a greater chance of learning to skatw. The risk of falling is in every thing you do in life. If you try anything worth doing you stand the chance of failing at it. You might not like it but the quicker you accept it, the better for you.
It's not whether you fall or not, because most likely the chances are you will, you can't help that. What you can help is whether you get back up and try again or give up and sit on the sidelines and watch other people achieve it. Did I feel embarrassed at having a large group of people see me Hi-5 the ice a few times? You already know the answer. But the embarrassment quickly dissipated when I learnt to laugh at myself and realised actually it's OKAY to fall down. It just means I'm getting closer to the goal.
Don't let your pride be the reason why you don't achieve. Fall down as many times as you need to just make sure you get back up!
Bee
xx
Check out Life lesson 1 here!
Check out Life lesson 2 here!
For my Vlogs and Videos- Check them out here!
Friday, 4 September 2015
Don't take it for granted! #LifeLesson2
Hey Guys,
Yes I know, I promised it would be a 7 day special then disappeared on the 1st day! Shame on me! Maybe it won't be everyday but I will definitely get to the 7 lessons lol. On that topic, if you haven't seen topic number one, you can check it out Here:
Today's lesson is about not taking things for granted. There are things that occur everyday that we take for granted because we don't work for it or do anything to bring it about. For example breathing, getting out of bed in the morning, sleeping etc. These are things we put no effort into doing yet achieve effortlessly. Consequently we end up taking these things for granted. STOP!
When you find out you can no longer do these things is when you start to appreciate it and at this point it's too late. Recently I've been suffering a bout of insomnia and have not been able to sleep for God knows how long. I just stay awake thinking of the days when I would plop my head on the pillow and I'm gone. Take my word for it, you never know what you have until it's gone that's a fact.
So whether it be people, jobs, relationships, food or the basic things in life you have come to expect, take time out to appreciate what you have because you never know when you just might lose it.
Bee
xx
PS: For Video advice and Rants from me, click Here!
Yes I know, I promised it would be a 7 day special then disappeared on the 1st day! Shame on me! Maybe it won't be everyday but I will definitely get to the 7 lessons lol. On that topic, if you haven't seen topic number one, you can check it out Here:
Today's lesson is about not taking things for granted. There are things that occur everyday that we take for granted because we don't work for it or do anything to bring it about. For example breathing, getting out of bed in the morning, sleeping etc. These are things we put no effort into doing yet achieve effortlessly. Consequently we end up taking these things for granted. STOP!
When you find out you can no longer do these things is when you start to appreciate it and at this point it's too late. Recently I've been suffering a bout of insomnia and have not been able to sleep for God knows how long. I just stay awake thinking of the days when I would plop my head on the pillow and I'm gone. Take my word for it, you never know what you have until it's gone that's a fact.
So whether it be people, jobs, relationships, food or the basic things in life you have come to expect, take time out to appreciate what you have because you never know when you just might lose it.
Bee
xx
PS: For Video advice and Rants from me, click Here!
Thursday, 27 August 2015
Let Them Go! #LifeLesson1
Hey Guys!
It has been the longest time, I'm going to try and post a short excerpt everyday for the next week so a #7day Life Lessons kinda situation. Partly to make up for being away for so long and partly to get me back into the spirit of Blogging!
Let them Go!
Today's post is going to be really short and it's just to encourage you guys. When it comes to relationships, friendships, partnerships, any kind of ships or boats (see what I did there), if the other party in the ship decides to leave. Let them go! You do not need to fight, struggle, beg, plead or persuade anybody to remain in your life. There is no need. I know you've heard it before but your destiny is not tied to anybody who decides to leave you. If a friend stops putting in effort to the relationship and you try to get it back and it doesn't work? Leave them. If a guy/girl your involves with suddenly decides you're not the one any more? Asta La vista.
Should you fight for what you want/love/believe in? Absolutely! But even the greatest fights only have 12 rounds. There comes a point where your fighting isn't doing anybody any good, most especially not you. That whole let them go and if they come back to you they're yours thing really applies here. Maybe they'll come back, maybe they won't and truly letting someone go means accepting the possibility that they won't and that's alright too. Situations like that tend to work out for the best. Yes you lost them, but most times you tend to get better.
So that's pretty much it! I told you I would keep it short! By God's grace, lesson number 2 will be up tomorrow. In the mean time feel free to check out my Youtube channel, which is where all my energy and time has been going into!
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC9JtJa-GnrWhB58Kbhbe3g
Bee
x
It has been the longest time, I'm going to try and post a short excerpt everyday for the next week so a #7day Life Lessons kinda situation. Partly to make up for being away for so long and partly to get me back into the spirit of Blogging!
Let them Go!
Today's post is going to be really short and it's just to encourage you guys. When it comes to relationships, friendships, partnerships, any kind of ships or boats (see what I did there), if the other party in the ship decides to leave. Let them go! You do not need to fight, struggle, beg, plead or persuade anybody to remain in your life. There is no need. I know you've heard it before but your destiny is not tied to anybody who decides to leave you. If a friend stops putting in effort to the relationship and you try to get it back and it doesn't work? Leave them. If a guy/girl your involves with suddenly decides you're not the one any more? Asta La vista.
Should you fight for what you want/love/believe in? Absolutely! But even the greatest fights only have 12 rounds. There comes a point where your fighting isn't doing anybody any good, most especially not you. That whole let them go and if they come back to you they're yours thing really applies here. Maybe they'll come back, maybe they won't and truly letting someone go means accepting the possibility that they won't and that's alright too. Situations like that tend to work out for the best. Yes you lost them, but most times you tend to get better.
So that's pretty much it! I told you I would keep it short! By God's grace, lesson number 2 will be up tomorrow. In the mean time feel free to check out my Youtube channel, which is where all my energy and time has been going into!
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC9JtJa-GnrWhB58Kbhbe3g
Bee
x
Tuesday, 21 July 2015
Be Yourself! Learning to love who you are. (My Youtube channel)
Hey guys!
This is just a quick short post!
I recently got myself a good quality camera to be able to take good pictures for the blog and to better my youtube channel. I'm still learning but this is my first video. Make sure to check it out. Subscribe, like and comment.
Thanks for the support in advance. ;)
This is just a quick short post!
I recently got myself a good quality camera to be able to take good pictures for the blog and to better my youtube channel. I'm still learning but this is my first video. Make sure to check it out. Subscribe, like and comment.
Thanks for the support in advance. ;)
Thursday, 16 July 2015
Don't take it Personally!
Hey Guys,I feel like I'm forever apologising for being MIA but sorry for not posting in a while. I've been meaning to post as there are quite a few experiences to share with you. But this one first.
Don't take it personal! Ever! You're probably wondering what I'm on about now. What I mean is that sometimes in life you expect certain people to be there for you. You swear by anything that whatever happens they will always have your back and you convince yourself that they are the one person in the world that can never let you down. (ha!) That is the biggest mistake you can possibly make because nobody is perfect. As long as they're human beings, they will always let you down. Maybe intentionally, maybe accidentally. Maybe they're going through their own crap and don't even realise what you're going through. Whatever the reason, my advice to you is not to take it personally.
It's not always about you and if you get upset every time
someone you expect to be there for you isn't, you end up giving yourself high blood pressure or hypertension or whatever because you will constantly be disappointed. Just think to yourself whenever you're in that situation, no they wasn't there for me in this particular instance but does that erase all the times they have been there for you in the past, or the times they could be in the future. Because somebody lets you down now doesn't mean they don't care about you or that it was a direct attack to you. Sometimes the person just made a mistake. Let them know how you feel if it bothers you that much and move on with your life.Lesson #2
Which brings me to my second lesson of the post which is that you should learn to be strong for yourself. Stop relying on other people to be there for you in difficult situations because as you seen, they aren't alwas there. Nobody can care about you in the way that you can care about yourself so stop expecting them to. If you need someone to hold you, hold yourself, if you need advice, advice yourself. Whatever you are looking for in someone else, I guarantee you can provide for yourself. It will save you a lot of heartache in the future.
Until next time,
Blessing xx
Wednesday, 3 June 2015
Life Reflections + My Birthday
Hey Guys,
Happy Belated birthday to me, 3rd of June is my birthday and I celebrated it with a couple of friends by going to Blackpool Pleasure beach where we spent the day. It was an amazing day and I really had fun, it is one of the simplest yet most fun birthday I have had in a while. But having reached a landmark age (at least in my opinion, a few of my friends disagree), I thought I'd do a few reflections on what I've learnt in my two decades on earth and what I hope to achieve.
Life:
Cliche as it may be, there's a quote that says ''If there's one thing I've learnt about life, it's that it goes on". Bearing this in mind, I keep trying not to take anything too personally. Life has a lot of things to throw at me, I can choose to dodge/cower or roll over and play dead at the slightest hit or I can take it head on and just deal with it. Some days I do feel like it's all too much, but recently I've come to realise that nothing in life is really that deep, and every problem seems better after a good nights sleep. In short, it is imperative to learn to embrace the things you cannot change.
Relationships:
In the last 6 months leading up to my birthday, I've been in my first proper relationship and had my first proper heartbreak. Truth be sold, it sucks, it still sucks and it seems it may suck for a while still. But I know I definitely learnt a lot about myself as a person and a lot about how relationships work. I think the most important thing I've taken from my experiences so far is that you could be everything someone ever wanted and still not be enough. In terms of friendships and romantic liaisons, its important to remember that as long as I give my best, I'm not responsible nor can i control what others give me back.
With friends, I think its important not to have too high expectations of people, because people are people and they will often not be there for you when you need them or fall short of your expectations. All you can really do is look past their flaws and embrace those who truly care for you.
Academics:
My general experience with this is that you get what you give, when I study really hard and put my all into something, I tend to do really well in it and when I slack and don't do as much as I should, that is also reflected in the result. But sometimes that's not always the case and you may end up sometimes putting your all into something and getting a grade that is not reflective of the effort. But what this has taught me is that academic results are not the end of the world. They are undoubtedly important but there is so much more in this world and to your intellectual ability than just merely what a piece of paper says.
Others:
I think the one thing I've picked up about life is not to let fear ever held you back from anything. If you really want something go and get it. This applies to YouTube, making friends etc, nothing is as scary as it seems and at the end of the day, what do you really have to lose? My greatest comfort has come from thinking, the worst thing that could happen is that people say no. They can't kill me, or harm me, all they can say is no and in retrospect that's not really so bad.
So those are the titbits of wisdom I've learnt so far, I will also share with you 5 random goals I hope to achieve in this next year of my life and will come back in a year to see if I can cross them off:
1. Start (at the very least) writing a novel.
2. Reach 300 Subscribers on youtube.
3. Learn to sew a dress.
4. Travel outside of the country.
5. Volunteer and do something to help the needy.
Speaking of YouTube, I currently reached 100 Subscribers on my YouTube channel and would appreciate if you could show your support by liking, commenting and sharing my videos and if you haven't already, please subscribe to the channel:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC9JtJa-GnrWhB58Kbhbe3g
Until next time,
xxx
Happy Belated birthday to me, 3rd of June is my birthday and I celebrated it with a couple of friends by going to Blackpool Pleasure beach where we spent the day. It was an amazing day and I really had fun, it is one of the simplest yet most fun birthday I have had in a while. But having reached a landmark age (at least in my opinion, a few of my friends disagree), I thought I'd do a few reflections on what I've learnt in my two decades on earth and what I hope to achieve.
Life:
Cliche as it may be, there's a quote that says ''If there's one thing I've learnt about life, it's that it goes on". Bearing this in mind, I keep trying not to take anything too personally. Life has a lot of things to throw at me, I can choose to dodge/cower or roll over and play dead at the slightest hit or I can take it head on and just deal with it. Some days I do feel like it's all too much, but recently I've come to realise that nothing in life is really that deep, and every problem seems better after a good nights sleep. In short, it is imperative to learn to embrace the things you cannot change.
Relationships:
In the last 6 months leading up to my birthday, I've been in my first proper relationship and had my first proper heartbreak. Truth be sold, it sucks, it still sucks and it seems it may suck for a while still. But I know I definitely learnt a lot about myself as a person and a lot about how relationships work. I think the most important thing I've taken from my experiences so far is that you could be everything someone ever wanted and still not be enough. In terms of friendships and romantic liaisons, its important to remember that as long as I give my best, I'm not responsible nor can i control what others give me back.
With friends, I think its important not to have too high expectations of people, because people are people and they will often not be there for you when you need them or fall short of your expectations. All you can really do is look past their flaws and embrace those who truly care for you.
Academics:
My general experience with this is that you get what you give, when I study really hard and put my all into something, I tend to do really well in it and when I slack and don't do as much as I should, that is also reflected in the result. But sometimes that's not always the case and you may end up sometimes putting your all into something and getting a grade that is not reflective of the effort. But what this has taught me is that academic results are not the end of the world. They are undoubtedly important but there is so much more in this world and to your intellectual ability than just merely what a piece of paper says.
Others:
I think the one thing I've picked up about life is not to let fear ever held you back from anything. If you really want something go and get it. This applies to YouTube, making friends etc, nothing is as scary as it seems and at the end of the day, what do you really have to lose? My greatest comfort has come from thinking, the worst thing that could happen is that people say no. They can't kill me, or harm me, all they can say is no and in retrospect that's not really so bad.
So those are the titbits of wisdom I've learnt so far, I will also share with you 5 random goals I hope to achieve in this next year of my life and will come back in a year to see if I can cross them off:
1. Start (at the very least) writing a novel.
2. Reach 300 Subscribers on youtube.
3. Learn to sew a dress.
4. Travel outside of the country.
5. Volunteer and do something to help the needy.
Speaking of YouTube, I currently reached 100 Subscribers on my YouTube channel and would appreciate if you could show your support by liking, commenting and sharing my videos and if you haven't already, please subscribe to the channel:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC9JtJa-GnrWhB58Kbhbe3g
Until next time,
xxx
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